My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Morning everyone xxx

Patricia those words make a lot of sense, thanks xxx Paul`s Dad has told me that Paul thought I was a hero in the way I cared for him and did everything I did. I`m no hero!!!! I did it because I loved him so much and we do it without thinking about it don`t we?? Like you say we shouldn`t have any regrets and it was completely out of our control.

Dot I think you are doing great and being a great support to everyone xxx

Have a lovely day everybody, I`m up early as car is in for it `s M.O.T. Weather not good here though, more cleaning I think!!!

Helen xxx

Thank you girls...............we do our best to ignore what might be - but these past few weeks of so much pain for Alan brings to the worries to the fore again....even he has admitted to being worried about all the pain - especially when it's in his neck and head......his own worst enemy at times............



((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) back to you all...........



Dot xxxxxxxxxxxx

What moving posts indeed. It is comforting to know we all had similar situations and that we are not alone in what happened to us. Helen, Wully too called me his hero and was so grateful for what I did but like you say I am no hero and only did it because I loved him - it was automatic you didn't think about it. He would have done the same for me. When Wully went into rapid decline the hospice didn't know he was at the end until 24 hours later because of the way it happened, however what they told me was that for a lot of younger people it happens like that. It seems that the body and spirit fight so hard for so long (which Wully did) that eventually the body has had enough and can't take anymore. They said they see that a lot in young people whereas older people's deaths tend to last longer (I haven't really explained that very well). To be honest I don't know how I would have coped if it had have gone on for weeks as he wouldn't have wanted that. I too echo the thoughts that I couldn't do it without you all and you have been great friends albeit virtual ones!! :-) Kev, you had a very hard time and I am sure it haunted you (or still does) for a long time.

Working at home today. It is very wet here but luckily I cut the grass last night. My viewers for tonight have cancelled thank goodness as they have already been out and they haven't even put theirs up for sale yet!!! Other viewers tomorrow night so the housework can keep till tomorrow.

Hope you all have a good day.

Gayle xxx

Morning All,
Well another very wet day here never seems to do anything else but rain. I am just off to see my dad before i go to work a thought to go out but beats staying in the house all alone i don't know if i will ever get use to it. My mum's birthday tomorrow so away to get some nice flowers for grave i miss her so much. Speak soon.
Hope you all have a good day.
Take Care
Fiona xxxxxxx

morning, Fiona
As you say, it gets you out of the house.
Have a good day at work
sue x

Morning everyone, just wanted to say good morning.

Kev xx

Kev, please don't feel as though you caused Di's death. She was probably just ready to go at that point. The doctor was insensitive to your pain and has obviously never been through loss or he would have been more compassionate I am sure.
Good afternoon everyone hope you all have a reasonable day. Love x x Tricia x x

Good Afternoon Team
What lovely posts..I have had friends round all morning have not seen them for ages, but it is nice to come back to you guys...
The last few posts were lovely.. I have put some pics of Micks Garden on facebook... His best friend got him a fountain and his friends at work a bench....Instead of wreaths we got acers and japanese plants for his garden.....
Hope your all ok xxx kaz

Hi Tricia, yeah I know she was ready, but the fact that we hadn't spoken about the injection does haunt me, we spoke about everything but that, as I felt I couldn't. I just feel I done it behind her back :(

Kev xx

Dear Kev



Please don't feel bad about what you did or did not do in Di's last hours.............no guilt should be attached to your actions...............although the doc's leave a lot to be desired!!!! That is just so heartless of him!!!! You have enough to deal with in your grief without compounding it in this way!!!



Sending you lots of comforting ((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))



Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx