Lost my husband

I had my darling wife’s wedding ring and mine melted down and combined into one so that which symbolised so much to her now never leaves me. Any decent jeweller should be able to do it and it’s not very expensive.

• Our son had his dad's ring resized and is now wearing it on his little finger. I think a lovely way to keep his dad close. Since we married we each wore one half of a gold heart, I nuw wear them both together.

Oh Wow!

Once again I can relate. Charging leads I have no idea what for. Think some were for phones some for shavers etc think I just bundled the ones that looked a bit `alien` and just dumped them and kept ones which I thought would be useful for charging my Kindle reader and mobile phones. 

That’s a great idea

s no cure.

Smosie I am so sorry for your loss & feel your pain which sometimes does feel like it physically hurts.  I lost my husband of 42 years 12 weeks ago tomorrow.  He was diagnosed with Mesothelioma in June 2023 & we were told straightaway there was no cure.

He underwent Immunotherapy & Chemotherapy to no avail.  We were told last September that his only hope was a clinical trial, he had to go through numerous tests & was told he was strong enough to start the trial A phase one first in human trial - only 156 people being recruited over 20 countries.  He felt so grateful that he had been accepted and had his first treatment on 2 December 2024 - sadly within 3 weeks his condition deteriorated which no one was expecting & he passed away in the hospice on 31 January 2025 - he had always  said he didn’t want to be home at the end - he said his home was for living in & he was determined he wasn’t having a bed downstairs etc.

People tell me I’m doing well but they don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, crying for hours a day, like others finding comfort in wearing his dressing gown.  We have one son & he, my daughter-in-law & 9 year old grandson are a God send.  My 85 year old parents need my support too & I see them every other day but some days I just don’t want to go but then have awful feelings of guilt for having those thoughts.  I just get through each day taking it hour by hour it’s all I can do at the moment.

My Husband died 8th Jan from Pancreatic Cancer. He was the samw didnt want our home turned into a Care facility, luckily he got a bed in our local Hospice, so grateful for this it was like been wrapped in a blanket for us all.. i am told im doing well, what ever that mwans. I just feel very sad and miss him so much. Im trying to keep it together as he would hate the fact if i fall apart Pancreatic Cancer has taken something else from him, that drives me forward , mainly. Keep strong but know its ok to shut the door and want to be left alone. 

Hi Vegas

Our hospice were amazing  too, they couldn’t have looked after him or the family any better.

My husband left my son & myself notes - asking us to carry on and try to live our lives to the full and even though I want to carry out his wishes it just feels too soon yet.  I hope I’ll be able to get there one day but for now it’s just baby steps.  

Just take each day as it comes if you have a good day that’s great but if you don’t that’s ok too.

It's my husband's funeral today, I went to see him for the last time on Wednesday and held his hand for an hour, knowing that's the last time I will see him or touch him smashed the last piece of my heart left, how this new life without him will feel I am about to find out but when I walk away today I am sure only a shell will leave, 47 years together since I was 16 feels like my lifetime,and although I feel grateful for all those years I wanted many more 

Sending you much love today. My husband’s funeral was 8th April. I have no advice to offer on getting through the day, I hope you find strength from your daughters. I know it was my family who literally carried me through the day.

I hope everything goes OK today. I feel other people say bye to our loved one , but we don't as they are still in our hearts.  

 I did not see Sue before the funeral as I sat with her for about 2 hours when they turned off the machines keeping her alive. I just couldn't face seeing her again. It is hard so hard but we have to try and remember are happy years we had together.