Lost my husband

I don’t have any words other than I will be thinking of you & your family today. Xx

My husband took a real turn for the worse with pancreatic cancer. Nothing anyone could do.  He had one day in the hospice and how I wish it was more.I want to go forward and help other people. It's too late for him but the hospice was wonderful if only for a very short time.

My husband too. It's so hard, There are no real answers. It's just so hard. Much love to all going through the same.

I lost my dear husband four weeks ago. His funeral was last Monday. My son and I visited his grave yesterday and I found that even harder than the actual funeral,it felt like I was leaving part of myself there with him.I can only say that all of us here are or have been going through the same journey and although family are wonderful only if you have been through this can you fully understand. Reading what everyone writes has been a great comfort to me over these past weeks ,and I only hope you gain a little comfort as well .Sending ove and hugs to you and your family.

• Hugs to you and your son x my partner passed Xmas day after a 4 month diagnosis.  I still have his ashes as I struggle with keeping him at home with me or a plot at the crem to let him be free. I know if I do that it's like got to go through that funeral day again with him. Reading other peoples feelings and knowing we all feel the same is a comfort x

My husband passed really quickly, never got him home where he wanted to be, still feel immense guilt over that. His funeral was on the 25th and I chose to keep him with me in a urn that we can share later, at least I feel he made it home that way, I have a small amount of ashes to scatter later in the month when we will take him somewhere he loved but I find myself holding those ashes at night like he is still there with me, will be hard to let him go, even that small piece of him. Everyone is so kind but like you said unless they have experienced losing a partner it is not something you can comprehend, I hope they do not have to know that feeling for a long long time, love to you all in this heartbreaking time ️

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Hello, I lost my husband 13 days ago and words cannot express how I am feeling. I still feel incredibly loved and cherished but he is simply not here and I don’t know how to be a ‘me’ we were an ‘us and we’ for so long. I know it is early days and I was so grateful, that in the end he went peacefully but the hurt is excruciating. Love to all who have lost xx

My beautiful Valen is here in front of me in the casket he chose himself when planning his own funeral. Which was heartbreaking in itself!

It will be 8 unbelievable, unbearable, horrific months in 2 weeks.

I have twice taken him twice, carefully wrapped in a nice soft blanket, on the train to Wales. 
He has come with me, again wrapped tightly in my suitcase, to my sisters. 
I don’t care that some family and friends find this strange. 
It’s what I want.  
And I promised him that he will not leave my side. 

He doesn’t want to be scattered and the only part of him separated is the small amount of his ashes in the locket necklace he picked out for me. 
His family have asked for some of his ashes. 
But I am respecting his wishes. Besides, I cannot bear to part with any of him. 

His usual place is looking out of the conservatory. 
When I leave the house I tell him to look out for the pesky pigeons. 
When I go to bed he comes with me and sits on the drawers. 
When it was cold I put a comforter blanket over him. He hated the cold.
I just cannot bear to be to far from him or away for to long and rush home.

Everyone is unique and grieves and copes in their own unique way.

hugs to you all

So sorry for your pain, being a pair, a us, a couple is so hard to change, it's only been a month now but I cannot accept it will only be me now, every part of me screams for him to be here, I hold a small tube of ashes in my hand every night and hug his photo, I cry and talk to him,I miss him so so much, everything seems to be crumbling beneath my feet, I miss every little thing, his hugs mostly and no one to talk the day to day things with, I didn't realise the support we gave each other until its only me, sending love and support to you, talking really helps.