Young Adults who have lost a parent

Hello KatrinaUK,

How are you and how have you been coping these past few years?

I am really glad I found this group; for I while now I didn't think there was anyone else around my age in a similar situation. You will have seen from the two responses I wrote earlier that I am 32 years old and recently orphaned. I lost may father at age 18 and my mother at age 32 in November last month. Neither died of cancer but I still relate to this group so much more than anyone else I know. I have no siblings, grandparents, uncle or aunt -so I have literally no family and no one who really understands me or whom I can relate to.

What happened to the meetup group you created, did you ever meet ? I tried joining but the page doesn't seem to be available anymore - did you dissolve it ? I am in Southeast London and would really like to meet up with you all -shall we set up another group maybe as a start we could do so on whatsapp ?

Really hoping to hear from you.

Lots of Love,

SammyJoe.

Hi Alinsonbel and SammyJoe,

Hi All, 

It has been a few weeks since I posted and after A LOT of searching, I did not find a single group for bereavement of young adults.

I know a few people have mentioned creating meet-up groups but it doesn't look as though it materialised??

I am also very keen to speak to people who understand this experience as I am dealing with everything very silently now. It is clear that nobody gets it which makes me feel worse.

So sorry to hear about everyones losses xx

Hi liskey51. Have you come across this site, Hope Again ? It is for young people who have lost a loved one. Run by Cruse bereavement, a reputable organisation. I hope it helps. Best wishes.

Hello 1970,

How are you?

Thank you for your kind words and sorry to hear about your situation too. It's comforting to know there's someone out there that understands and feels exactly what you feel. Your sentence "....nobody else feels the pain I feel about losing mum and even though they listen to my stories, they don’t mean anything to anyone else" really hit a nerve because this is exactly what I think when speak to someone who cannot relate to my situation because they just simply have not "been there".

Thank you, I am so grateful you responded because I now feel like there's a real person on the other end. I wish you and your children all the best for 2018 as wel

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Lots of Love,

SammyJoe

Hello Liskey51,

How are you?

I created a private group today on Facebook and put the link in a post but it has been edited out by the admin of this platform. I am not sure why they would do that and I must say that has rather really upset me as all I was trying to do is form a community of people who understand each other. [edited by admin]

Lots of Love,

SamamyJoe

Hello Lisky, SammyJoe,

I have joined the Facebook group. Thank you for creating this, like both of you, I have been so desperate to speak to others who are going through the same as me.

I have engaged with Cruse, Macmillan, Overgate Hospice but all of them either have groups just for adults of any age or the only specialist group for young people was Manchester (an hour away from me and not accessible for people outside the area anyway).

It’s the eve of my mums anniversary and I feel some comfort that bringing the two of you onto this site at this time is in some way hers (and dads) way of looking out for me. Daft I know, but we have to take comfort where we can.

I hope that you too can find comfort in similar ways.

Love to you both xxx

Hello 1970,

Thank you for joining the group. Macmillan has removed the link from my post so I hope others will be able to find the group somehow and join as well. Hopefully one day we organise a meeting.

I can completely relate and understand how you must have felt. It does become particularly difficult on anniversaries as you tend to have all these thoughts going through your mind and worse of all a mix of emotions to deal with especially when it hasn’t been that long ago.

My mum died in late November last year so it’s been very difficult during the festive season. Last Saturday was exactly one month since my mum’s funeral and my brain just wouldn’t go to rest as I kept reliving the events of the funeral day in my head. ­­ The Sunday was also very difficult because I have all these memories of how we spent every New Year’s Eve; we always did the countdown together and then a toast when the clock struck 0.00 and we entered the new year. In the end it seems all we’re left with are the memories …and for those I am very grateful as these memories are my comfort.

Your mum and dad are looking out for you 1970, not in the way that they used to when they were still with you but they are looking out for you and will forever continue to do so.

So far, we have all survived 100% of our worst days so this too shall pass.

Lots of Love,

SammyJoe

Hello everyone,

I’m afraid we have a guideline which states ‘We do not allow adverts for Facebook groups to be posted on the community’. We have this rule in place as we cannot verify the content of Facebook groups, especially closed ones, and whether it is harmful or appropriate for our members.

We encourage members to seek support where they find it, however the Online Community is not a space to promote these groups. We moderate all mentions of Facebook groups and remove links and names to the groups.

It would be great if you could use this discussion on the Online Community to support other young adults who have lost a parent to cancer on here, as I’m sure many others will continue to join looking for others in a similar situation.

I hope you understand why we have taken this action, however if you need more clarity please let me know.

Best wishes,

Jess

Hello Debs,

How are you coping ?

I lost my mum last November and with that both parents so you can trust me when I say, " I know how you feel".

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Looking forward to welcoming you.

Lots of Love,

SammyJoe