First Christmas without my Mum and with a new baby

Hello LouiseP  and welcome to the forum, I am so sorry to hear about your mum and what a difficult time you are having. Having lost my mum to cancer i can tell you what you are feeling is normal. Louise regarding counselling Macmillan are doing  a partnership with bupa offering 6 telephone sessions to people who need them, the number is 0808 808 00 00, please take care, Eddie

Hi eddiel 

The free sessions through BUPA’s partnership with Macmillan are only for people with a cancer diagnosis, and unfortunately the service doesn’t extend to families and carers.

Sarah xx

Hi LouiseP 

My name is Steph and I'm part of the Community team here at Macmillan. May I wish you another warm welcome to the Community. Although I’m sure it’s a membership you did not want to have to join, I hope you will find the site to be a safe place of comfort and support.

Sending you gentle hugs, we are so sorry to read about the loss of your beautiful mum. With a young baby and child, it's not surprising that you're finding things difficult. You have a lot going on for you and I hope you will find it helpful to be able to talk about your feelings here on the forums. 

Although the BUPA counselling available through Macmillan might not be quite right for you (thank you SarahH21 ) I would still encourage you to contact the Macmillan Support Line as eddiel suggested. You can talk everything through with someone who is there to listen and investigate ongoing support options. 

Our Support Line is available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.

Macmillan also have some online information to help with your bereavement here.

In addition to offering a listening ear through the Online Community and the Support Line, our advisers may refer you to other bereavement services, such as Cruse Bereavement Support,  a charity dedicated to  helping help people through one of the most painful times in life. You can contact Cruse directly on 0808 808 1677.

I’d also recommend you take a look at the website Ataloss.org. They can help you find the right bereavement support for you, from national organisation helplines to small local groups who might meet face to face.

Please do let us know if you have any questions or if you’d like some help using the Community or further support with anything at all. I hope that the Community helps you feel less alone and shows you that there’s a lot of support available for you.

Take care, LouiseP

Hi, 

Your message really resonated with me. I lost my lovely mum in June 4 weeks after I had my first baby. She had moved in with me and I was never apart from her.

I felt I had to just get on with things and then christmas and new year came and I feel very much like I hit rock bottom...again the thought of her not being part of my year just breaks me. 

I'm not sure what the answer is, but just wanted to send my love. 

X

I'm so sorry for your loss! It's an impossibly hard bereavement without all the postpartum hormones raging too

Sending you so much love xx