Struggling again - reaching out to any stage 3 warriors

Hello there cbwc. So sorry to hear your results were worse than you were expecting and hoping for.  I’m not a stage 3 Warrior myself, but just wanted to reach out to you, as you are obviously feeling scared at this moment. I expect some of the others here who are in the same boat may respond. I can imagine the panic and the feeling of despair you are feeling right now, but never give up hope. Your medical team will look at your results and work out a way forward for you. You are still young and strong, and the treatments are getting better all the time, so try not to fall into a black hole. Sometimes words like that don’t help much, so I’m sending you a big hug. Remember we are all here and understand, you are not alone.

Viv x

Hi cbwc, I was stage 3. I had a hysterectomy in Feb this year and like you I was devastated to hear it was stage 3. When I finally got to see the surgeon I was relieved when she said this was still curable, they just needed to hit it hard with adjuvant treatments to reduce the chances of it coming back. I’m thankful to say I have done chemo and radiotherapy which finished 2 weeks ago and have got no lasting side effects. I had a CT scan just before the radiotherapy which came back completely clear as did my blood tests. All blood levels are back to normal after the chemo also. I am now getting my life back to normal. I will now have regular check ups for the next 5 years then will be discharged. I had some very dark moments at the beginning of my journey and I felt like my life was over. I honestly didn’t think I would be where I am now and feeling so positive. You really will get through this even though at the minute you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have just got off the rollercoaster and it feels so good and you will too I’m sure xxx

Hi there cbwc,

so sorry you are feeling so miserable and struggling. Believe it or not, we are allowed to feel that way! Don’t beat yourself up, it’s ok to feel this way. You have received news that has rocked your axis, and every single person would wobble, of course they would. I had my surgery 2 weeks ago today, and won’t have my result until the end of next week, yours have come through much quicker. The anxiety we feel is totally justified, the fear of the unknown, the ifs, buts, everything ending in a question mark and no full stops just eats us away. Once a full plan has been put in place, and you have had chance to speak with your specialist nurses, I am sure you will receive assurance that this will be dealt with. These specialist oncologist consultants are the best in the field, they deal with nothing else, and a full treatment plan going forward will be organised and gone through with you in intricate detail. Until you get chance to do this, of course your head plays tricks with you, are minds are both our best friend, but can flip to our worst enemy and torture us with dark thoughts. I just want you to know there are many fabulous ladies here who are here to give you support, and I am always around for a chat. Lots of love Emm xx

Thank you Viv x

Thank you Bella. This means the world. Xx

Thank you xxx

Which hospital are you at if you don’t mind me asking? I had my treatment at St James’ in Leeds. They were absolutely brilliant x

Hi cbwc. I'm sorry to read your results were worse than expected but pleased to read the supportive replies you've received, especially from Bella H. I can remember when she joined and we were all rooting for her. It's so much harder for the younger ladies here with children no matter how hard it is for all of us.

We always hope above hope we'll be in the lower stages and grades and it's such a shock to hear otherwise but you've not been given a death sentence. Cancer is now classed as a treatable disease and you will get through this. We're all here to support you, you are not alone.

Sending hugs with love, Barb xx

Thank you xxxx

Hi cbwc I had a hysterectomy in December last year after being diagnosed with stage 1a endometrial cancer.  After the op I was told it was stage 3a and the cancer had entered one of my Fallopian tubes. Like you I was devastated as I thought the hysterectomy would be the end of my treatment.  I was referred to The Christie in Manchester where a plan was put in place for me for adjuvant treatment which consisted of 6 sessions of chemotherapy, 23 sessions of radiotherapy and 2 sessions of brachytherapy.  I finished my treatment in August this year. After my operation I was back at work within 6 weeks and worked through most of my treatment.   It has been a long and hard haul but it was all worth it in the end to be told that I am cancer free.

You can get through this and come out the other end to live a normal life and be there for your children. 

please feel free to ask any questions if you are put on a similar treatment plan as me.