Hello all,
I am new hear and feeling incredibly lost!
Five months ago my husband began feeling very unwell with back pain and kidney pain, blood in urine, they suspected Kidney stones and sent him off for a CT.. the Kidneys were clear for stones but he had three large ( 9cm) simple cysts and spot they could not identify but were not concerned about. However, they did find a 3cm x 3cm Lesion attached to the outside of his bladder. They decided the best route was to remove the lesion under the urology team via robotic surgery and this surgery took place three weeks ago. He has had a number of issues since and developed a blood clot and the wound is now open and we see the nurs every 48 hrs to clean and dress.
Friday we had a call from the urology consultant advising that the prelim histology was back and it shows as a Sarcoma - at this point they do not what type or stage and the tumor requires more tests.
We have been told that he will need a CT scan, and then everything will be reviewed by the All Wales Sarcoma Team and a plan will be put in place - and thats that.
We are left with no idea whats going on, how long it will take, does the care stay with urology or go over to a sarcoma team, are the Kidney cysts likely to also be Sarcoma.... is that it, now its removed or is there more to it!
We are lost and have no idea where to turn, the urologist has now answers for us and I suspect it is a waiting game but has anyone experienced anything similiar and knows what the next steps are etc?
Thanks for reading :-) x
Hi Sierra. Your husbands story very much similar to my husbands. Feb last year back, kidney pain and suspected stones. CT scan clear but for incidental 2cm enlarged iliac lymph node. Urology took over and suspected prostate cancer although PSA and examination did not flag up. Had prostate biopsy, clear. Eventually decided biopsy lymph node. September confirmed diagnosis leiomyosarcoma. Was refer to QE hospital birmingham Sarcoma and was under two consultants, Sarcoma and Utology. Surgery was mainly led by Urology and this was done in November. Surgery was a success in as much Sarcoma removed and escaped with just urethral construction. The sarcoma was 5.8cm at point of surgery so time is of the essence to get it out ASAP, unfortunately it took 7 months in total to be diagnosed and the tumour is growing during this period. We on 3 monthly scans now, first one due in two weeks time. All I can say is push, question and push again and again don't sit back and wait for them. Demand to be referred to a Specialist Sarcoma centre ASAP.
Hi Shaba, Thank you so much for replying - I am very grateful! May I ask did you husband require any Radiotherapy or treatment after removal, and was ther any spread at all? I think this is what we are most scared off at the moment. When we went for the kidney ultrasound they were pretty confident that the cysts were fine but she said they was a very mark that she couldnt work out what it was, but we never heard any more on it, so we are really panicking now :-( Did it take long for your CT scan to check if there was any mestasis and your referal? Sorry for all the questions but weve just been left in limbo :-(
Hi Sierra l. It's been a ling drawn out process. One that we have had to push and push with constant ringing secretary. Knowing biopsies been with consultants within days of being taken yet weeks to discuss in MDT and make decisions Sarcomas are rare and I don't think they always suspect sarcoma unless lump found externally. With us lit was enlarged lymph found in Feb. Suspecting cancer they needed to find a primary. CT scan did not show anything. So they assumed prostate as this bring nearest organ to the lymph node. Eventually I'm July they decided to biopsy lymph and do PET, only lymph had take up. In Sept they finally had us in and told us it was leiomyosarcoma. The urologist was pretty crap, saying you got cancer, don't know anything about this cancer or how you treat it, and going to refer you now to Soft tissue cancer specialist. This is 7 months on from 2WW in Feb!!!! We got to see Sarcoma within a 2 weeks and then had to do another scan pelvis and chest because referral was sent with scan from July!!! Operated on within 6 weeks of first consultation. We see radiologist Oncologist this Friday ro discuss adjuvient radio but tbh both sarcoma and urology consultants were not overly supportive of this, in our case where the tumour was the damage radio can do outlays tge benefit. Told radio does not guarantee no recurrence. Ultimately it will be our decision. Upshot is they never found a primary and we may never know. To date we only been dealing eith lymph node, which in itself the sarcoma consultant had never seen before and would never have expected it. Husband has been a talking point with most clinicians we seen. Limbo I get you, God do we get you. Read your story to husband and his jaw dropped and he said that's was us. You got make yourself heard and bang on door and push. Go through PALS now please please start making noise
WIth regards to you ... I cannot understand how they don't know what typeof sarcoma you have from histology ???? I would put in a request for the histology report. You have a right to a copy. You need to send electronically with ID and utility bill and they have to give to you although this could take upto 40 days. Oddly we just requested ours last week for our record. We missed a registered mail delivery yesterday so expecting it today Ithink.
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