Hi all,
My dad has just been told, after many tests and a biopsy, that he has advanced prostate cancer, incurable but can be treated.
I’m in bits about the diagnosis, possibly at the wording ‘advanced’ and ‘incurable’. He has a PET scan on Monday which means we’ll find more, but the consultant told him that it’s in the lymph nodes. I guess what I’m asking for is how long will I have my dad? I know with some research that treatable can mean he’ll have time, but with it being in the lymph nodes, I’m terrified that he’s incredibly ill and I won’t have much time at all. I’m so scared and it’s making me sick.
im so angry, he’s he’s just retired (64) and now this has popped out to ruin what should be his best days.
apologies if this is a difficult question to answer, I’m just feeling broken and confused right now.
Hello Kirsty (KirstyM )
A warm welcome to the group, although I am so sorry to find you joining us.
Let me say at the outset dad is "treatable" and we have Community members on here who have an advanced prostate cancer diagnosis and have been around for over 10 years.
my answer to your question
how long will I have my dad?
is - it all depends on him and his treatment. If he keeps a positive attitude, keeps as fit as possible and the treatment works - he will enjoy a very long and happy retirement. Treatments and life expectance are getting better all the time.
I have "lymph node involvement" and had my pelvic lymph nodes "zapped" with Radiotherapy and over 4 years down the line I feel great (you can read my personal journey by clicking on my name or avatar).
To help us help you can you add dad's details (Gleason Score, PSA Readings and TNM Score etc) to his profile. On your home page click on the green button - top right, then "profile" then "edit" - don't forget to click on save when you've written something.
Yes I know at the start this cancer journey is confusing - stay away from Dr Google and ask your questions here, however trivial they may be. - you will get honest answers from those who have "been there - got the T-shirt".
Best wishes - Brian.
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