Has anyone else got “that person” in their family and friends who keeps you on the straight and narrow with dark humour/plain talking if you get a bit wrapped up in self-pity?
My brother had prostate surgery last year, but as he was more advanced than me (G 5+4 and T3a), his surgery wasn’t as subtle with no nerve sparing etc. He’s been a rock and super supportive, but regularly knows when to send replies to me that bring me up short and kick me back into reality if I’m feeling a bit whiney. For example:
Me worried about the biopsy getting lots of gentle words from people, the my brother: “Biopsy is a hoot - you lay on your back in stirrups with your scrote taped to your belly and an ultrasound up the butt, while a team of people stick a big needle up your taint (completely painless) and pull bits out. Dignity? Don’t fink so.”
When my wife complained on WhatsApp that the hospital bed was too short (I’m 6’ 5”). Got concerned replies and advice, then my brother: “You wait until you are trying to sleep on the f***** with a tube out yer winkle!”
Then wondering about 1st bowel movement: “About 3 days - had to refill the old poop chute from scratch. Kick starting the chutney may be a bit hit and miss. Fybogel in moderation can help. Too much gives you a yo-yo thing going on.”
Those were some of the less sweary ones that can be shared 
Hope everyone has the best support from their nearest and dearest too!
Happy sunny Sunday to all 
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Good Morning Fzh2p0
I believe in telling it as it is and you need to be able to be aware that although you are dealing with something that is /could be life threatening - life goes on.
I have great support from my family - my friends and this Community - I am very open and honest about my condition and am 4 years into this journey - being on the Community for 3 of those years, here's a link to a few of the things that have happened to me:
‘Cancer can’t take my sense of humour’- Brian's story
I save the "x" rated ones for when I do Prostate Cancer meetings - I start those off with the word "Dignity" - well don't expect to keep it!!
We also have a "general chit-chat" thread here too, which you are welcome to join in - there's no restriction on topics they range from do-nuts, football, dogs to whatever is on your mind - link here:
For me - there's plenty of support - you just need to be open and honest.
Best wishes - Brian
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