Hubby had his catheter out on monday. I know its very early days. And i know it can take months. But just hoping to hear some positive feedback. He is 53 years old - which i hope is in his favour. At the moment he can only go 20/30 mins before needing to pee the more full he is the worse the urgency is. He is a larger (body weight) chap. So not so good for him he is feeling good and we r wanting to go out christmas shopping for the kids. But im worried about booking a trip away like he wants to. Coz we cant keep finding a loo that often. Does it improve fairly quickly - to be able to fold it longer than that? He also finds he is dribbling a lot - and def has stress incontinence. I know i feel mean. But i cant face going out for it to be so stressful. But i want to support him. :(
Hello Winchmoma
Very early days and I can understand that he wants to go out and about again. I haven't had surgery but I had an indwelling catheter for 10 months. When the catheter came out and I had my TURP operation I had to learn to wee again and pads and pants were on the agenda.
Here's a link to a cracking post bu Community member Huffies you may find helpful:
Pads and what you need to know
I felt great and confident going out with either pads or pants as no one knows you are using them.
I hope this helps.
Best wishes - Brian.
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Hello Winchmoma
Ah, I see your problem. Has he been told that he needs to practice his pelvic floor exercises, this will enable him to regain control a little quicker?
Once he's up and feeling more confident we have details of the "Toilet Card" here and it's a good idea to buy a "Radar" key - this is the one that opens disabled toilets.
Link here:
https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/bladder-cancer/using-public-toilets
I hope this helps.
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