Incontinence

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Hubby had his catheter out on monday. I know its very early days.  And i know it can take months. But just hoping to hear some positive feedback.  He is 53 years old - which i hope is in his favour. At the moment he can only go 20/30 mins before needing to pee the more full he is the worse the urgency is. He is a larger (body weight) chap. So not so good for him he is feeling good and we r wanting to go out christmas shopping for the kids.  But im worried about booking a trip away like he wants to. Coz we cant keep finding a loo that often. Does it improve fairly quickly - to be able to fold it longer than that? He also finds he is dribbling a lot - and def has stress incontinence. I know i feel mean. But i cant face going out for it to be so stressful.  But i want to support him. :( 

  • Hello  

    Very early days and I can understand that he wants to go out and about again. I haven't had surgery but I had an indwelling catheter for 10 months. When the catheter came out and I had my TURP operation I had to learn to wee again and pads and pants were on the agenda.

    Here's a link to a cracking post bu Community member  you may find helpful:

     Pads and what you need to know 

    I felt great and confident going out with either pads or pants as no one knows you are using them. 

    I hope this helps.

    Best wishes - Brian.

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  • Thanks. If it was just the pads and dribble it wouldnt be so bad. But its the constant need to go to the loo. We would barely get round a shop then need to go again. Popping into Aldi was a chore! 

  • Hello  

    Ah, I see your problem. Has he been told that he needs to practice his pelvic floor exercises, this will enable him to regain control a little quicker?

    Once he's up and feeling more confident we have details of the "Toilet Card" here and it's a good idea to buy a "Radar" key - this is the one that opens disabled toilets.

    Link here:

    https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/bladder-cancer/using-public-toilets

    I hope this helps.

    Best wishes - Brian.

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