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Brian, I see Sunderland went an done it!!!... for Ulls!

It's Oldham's time next weekend to do it for you!!

And Newcastle's time to do it for me tomorrow!

It’s a tough one for you, Gina. Perhaps begin to sort out the legal , paperwork , your plans for a future without R slowly and surely as and when you feel up to it. Get as much R &R as you can as you go through this horrible time and try not to think too much about the ‘when’? 

you know where I am if you need some time out or someone to whom you can let off steam. Things have got a bit quieter work wise but we’ve just been through a week of dramas family-wise! Hardly dare tempt fate but ‘all quiet on the western front’ sounds apt this weekend!! 

sending a big hug! Not used my free coffee for May yet! X

Hi Sidsmum 

This is really sad to read. I have no doubt that R knows exactly what lies ahead for him. By him saying he will be better soon, it gives him the motivation to stay strong for himself and you. My advise is to ensure your financial affairs are in order, it is just good practice and has nothing to do with life expectancy.

All of the best, try and make the most of every day as every day is a special gift.

Munster

Gina, you know you have a brilliant friend in WW.

Take Care, both of you 

Thanks J. I will look at my week, and hopefully be able to meet up soon. This last week was my eye injection so limited my actions. I'll message you but I may be free while R is at Cottesmore on Friday. Xxx

Gina, you have so much to put up with I just don’t know how you manage.  Brian’s comment of look after yourself is really important, so please take the advice.
When I was first diagnosed I was convinced (like all of us) that I didn’t have long, so we sorted our affairs to make it simpler for my OH on her own.  By doing this it gave me something else to focus on and once done I became less stressed.  I can certainly recommend it. 
In terms of explaining to Richard about his situation, only you know what is best for him.  When my mother had early dementia she would ask why my dad hadn’t been to visit and initially I would try and explain that he had died years before.  I later went on a dementia awareness course and understood that this approach was pointless, as it generally upset her and she didn’t remember anyway.   It is far better to sidestep the issue if you can.  
To me, not knowing when the end is coming (or more importantly what it will be like) is a massive relief.  I am happy being an ostrich on this one.  
I am sure you will do the right thing.  Do what you think is right and have no regrets.  Hugs, David

Hi Gina, I have  pencilled Friday in so that I keep it clear if , and only if, you can easily make it. No worries at all if something crops up and you have to cancel:) I quite understand your situation.  Hope the injection went ok. It’s not the nicest procedure but if it preserves your sight it is well worth the discomfort.

take care and perhaps see you soon  xxx

So far Friday looks good. How about 2.15, then I can pop into the food bit first?

Gx

Thanks David, and hugs always welcome. My mum was the same when she asked where dad was. However, it was easier to just tell her he was gone, and her grief only manifested for a couple of minutes and then she would say, oh yes of course and then forget about it. We are all different really. 

It is harder when R gets sundowning. If I agree with him, he goes down a long route of wanting copies of deeds, prices we got for our house, how much the new home in Spain/France cost, how are we moving all our belongings, have I booked the removals etc etc. We just now tell him his brain is going silly and then he gets back from whatever country he thinks he is in and all goes back to normal!!1