Prostate cancer

Hi Gina, yes mood swings are a side effect of hormones, has Richard had counseling, I was in a very dark place, the counselor helped me through and I still follow the plan, I do still get down but I use the plan to get over it. We are all different so treatment geared to each one.

Thanks Ulls. He is having a six weekly course of therapy so hopefully that is helping. It is helpful to know that you also have mood swings.

I have not mentioned this before but we have had marital problems and are technically estranged and have been for over a year. Without going into detail, errors initially were on his side, and after 46 years of marriage we have grown apart. However, I have vowed to stay and live with him as he seriously cannot manage on his own. I still love him but more like a brother, and would not want him to struggle on his own. None of this helps with his moods and unfortunately he cannot accept responsibility for the demise of our marriage. This seriously does not help with his depression. 

I know this just adds to his woes, but it is better than had I walked out a year ago. 

Sorry, that all got a bit heavy didn't it. Perhaps I should have ended with a joke!!

Gina

No jokes need I'm surprised you said this on open forum, if you would rather talk private I'll send a private message.

Hi Gina sent you a friend request.

I don't know where you get the strength from, your situation show real deep love, perhaps counciling could benefit you as well. But if you want to chat I'm willing to listen.

Sorry to leave the site but I get tired, medication!

That's really sweet and kind of you. Although it's an open forum, we are all really anonymous.  Just thought it might explain his moods and reasoning but wondering if some of it was down to the pc or treatment.  Luckily I have friends who can help me and are good sounding boards. Things are not easy and this all happened before his diagnosis. Life is a buggar at times but thanks for your concern. 

Gina

Gina

Nice to hear from you.  Glad Richard is improving.  What's "blue" job?  Is it rude?

Just think of the savings on toilet paper!  Andrex will go out of business.  Really happy to hear some good news.

About the mood swings, I am still full of them.  I'm sure it's the Hormones.  Ulls what do you think?

I met Ulls yesterday at Maggie's.  It's good to see the man behind the messages.  Also John from Yorkshire, Macmillan was there.

I was chuffed to bits to meet them both. 

Tell you more later, got to get ready for work.

Richard will have seemed depressed because you were watering down the Gin.  I'd do it anyway just to be devilish.

I'd say it's definitely work that's making me short tempered.

Better go for now.

Gina,

Got a tear in my eyes reading that.

I think you are amazing!  So strong!

Definitely got to get ready for work.

  Big Hug

Well yes something are down to medications, mood swings, depression definitely, anger indirectly probably to the feeling of helplessness, fear of dieing ect, I've experienced these feelings, if it was not for my checking on me during a dark mood it would not be chatting to you or anyone else, that's why I've had counseling, it's works but only if you're open with the councilor, most days I write down a list of good thing that have happened, from the online chat, overheard remarks made by a stranger, just anything that brings back good memories, when I'm having a bad day pain tired dark thoughts, I read the good things book to help me through. Lotts of hugs.ulls 

Ulls, Gina,

Counselling really does work.

I used to think to myself elf, that I would never need counselling.

Long,long ago... I know now that I do.  Talking to you all in the forum has helped me too.

Compare me to this time last year, the only main stress now is work.  I'm thinking of going part time.

Ulls, my good things book is my diary.  On to my 7th one now, this one's called "Hotel California". (You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave).