Was diagnosed with this two weeks ago. Had initially gone for surgery to remove gall bladder and they discovered a bleeding ovary. Bleeding could not be stopped so they had to remove the ovary.Before discharge I went for a ct scan. They also discovered a pulmonary embolism and lung infection. Gall bladder operation was put on hold. First round of Chemo is next Wednesday. I am so scared.
I am here on a work visa and on top of that I am a single mum of 3.Trying to be positive and hopeful but it is so difficult.
Hi there, I have recently started chemo treatment and am currently planned for surgery in June. I just wanted to reach out to you and give support and virtual hugs 
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It is scary, both overall and as regards different elements in the treatment (at one point a few weeks back the hospital suspected a blood clot on my lung which I must admit made me immediately panic and I wrote an 'if anything happens' message to my father on the way to the hospital.)
You find out quite quickly I think who amongst your family, friends, work colleagues etc is able to process and understand your cancer diagnosis and the whirlwind of emotions and practical implications that come with it. And therefore you kind of find out who is beneficial to keep more contact with, or at least who you feel comfortable discussing things with.
I don't have children so I can't imagine how strong you need to be to also look after them at this time. I hope you have family/friends close by who are able to at least provide some practical assistance at times.
The hospital treating me has a Macmillan Hub located within the cancer centre, which is always staffed. They have been amazingly supportive and helpful, including many practical aspects eg financial things. So if you haven't already done so, ask what local support is available.
On a day to day basis, me and my partner are dealing with the emotions rollercoaster and the practicalities as they come. Yesterday for example we had a lovely day playing an old fashioned boardgame from our childhoods in the morning and relaxing in the garden in the afternoon. Then in the evening I was very tearful....
My partner is an absolute rock to me but has been finding it very difficult to enjoy anything because 'everything is ####', not wanting to believe the diagnosis and the total upheaval caused.
I don't think any emotion is right or wrong, it is what it is. However I do think that there can and should still be moments where you are able to still smile or enjoy something to help offset the wider picture. I have found I am developing a real 'mindfulness' to such moments.
Anyway, I have waffled a bit so will stop here!
Best wishes x
