Where do I begin? My husband was not feeling well in mid January of this year. He developed a cough in February that didn't seem to go away and he was losing weight he didn't even have to lose. When he started coughing up blood I knew something was serious and we went to the hospital. He had a chest xray 3 weeks prior. The doctor came into the room to tell us that there was a large tumor on his lung. We both felt stunned. I know many of you have felt this feeling and it's one you NEVER forget. He was sent for an emergency CT where our worst fear was revealed. It had spread everywhere. My husband is only 41 years old. We've been married for 2 years. He has two sons. Life as we knew it would never be the same. In April he had radiation on his lung to try to shrink the tumor so he was able to breathe better. He has also had brain radiation as well. In April he started immunotherapy. He did this treatment every 3 weeks and was able to tolerate it well, fatigue, aches were the only side effects. Pet scans determined that is was working on shrinking some tumors. This gave us hope. unfortunately in August he was complaining of abdominal pain. A CT determined that he had Braf v600e mutation. This meant that the cancer spread (to the bowel) Immunotherapy was no longer an option and now he is on his last option which is targeted therapy (Dabrafenib and Trametinib) He has started this beginning of September. Things were fine in the beginning. Then he developed a high grade fever, Headaches, as well as hives all over his body. He had to stop treatment for a week. He still had hives and fevers. His oncologist lowered his dose of treatment and aside from fatigue and minor aches he is tolerating it much better. His Headaches were a concern so he had a urgent MRI last week and we are just waiting on results. Pet scan will be next month and will determine if this treatment is working. I know this is a long post, I know this is a difficult journey and reading about others journey's makes this less dark. One day at a time, right?
That is some story, certainly lots of experience you have both been through. One day at a time indeed.
I find quite a bit of help in Your feelings when someone has cancer helpful to me and in turn that means I can be more helpful to my wife. We just have the one son and he is far more aware of hospitals than we might like but that is our reality.
<<hugs>>
Steve
I am so sorry you and your husband are going through this.my husband was diagnosed with malignant melanoma on the lining round his lung on Monday.the cancer has caused a pleural effusion which he is having to have drained regularly because it’s making him so breathless.we are awaiting news as to what options he has and I am terrified and feel so useless 
