Hi all.
It is going to be another night of no sleep again
A few people have been so helpful to me on this forum, but I am so worried about dying and leave my wife and our 3 boys very soon.
I got my results back from the hospital this afternoon and the doctor from the hospital was so sorry to have to tell me that I have superficial Melanoma.
It was 3.9mm which is big by the sound of it.
I am now waiting for another call / letter from Chrities hospital in Manchester.
He said I will see a plastic surgeon and also have scans done, lymph nodes etc.
I asked him about how long I had left and he did not really want to speculate to much as I had not had not had anything else done as yet.
But it did look like if it has spread I have about 5 years left and if it hasn't spread about 10 years or maybe a bit more left.
Latchbrook has been very helpful on here as well as Miranda and a couple of others.
I can't sleep now just wondering how long I have left with my family.
I am reaching out to see if any other people out there have been in this situation as well as the other helpful people that have been helpful.
Thank you all.
I just feel like my world is coming to an end.
From a very very worried husband and dad.
Thank you.
Simon.
My mother's melanoma was actually under 1mm and she was very lucky to have been offered further testing - otherwise, they never would have known that it had already spread. So thin ones can spread too.
But... my grandmother's was very thick. Between 3 and 4mm I think, can't remember exact number, and like I said, hers never spread and never recurred. Latchbrook is right - thickness is just one measure, it doesn't predict death.
Please try not to panic yourself until you have more information.
Sorry, yes you are quite right.
I really apologise.
I wasn't thinking
Sorry.
No problem. I know how worried you are.
((hugs))
The appointment at Salford Royal might be for the first of your 3 monthly skin check-ups, but a quick phone call tomorrow will give you a definite answer. I remember my first skin check-up with dermatology came before I'd had the WLE and SLNB.
It won't give me the option to amend or delete it.
It just says reply.
Does not say more !!
Thank you.
Simon.
Are you using a phone or tablet/laptop? I know that the 'more' button appears on my laptop but not on my phone.
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