Books to explain better to children when someone close dies

Macmillan do   a booklet" Talking to children and teenagers when an adult has cancer"

https://be.macmillan.org.uk/be/s-617-talking-about-cancer.aspx?ProductTypeFilterID=144

Ideally, u want a  picture book. I'm a (retired)i ibrarian but cannot think of of one. I'll carry on thinking ..

See this link

books.google.co.uk/.../What_s_Heaven.html

and this

herts.spydus.co.uk/.../69754881,13

https://herts.spydus.co.uk/cgi-bin/spydus.exe/FULL/OPAC/BIBENQ/76408660/71392922,17

https://herts.spydus.co.uk/cgi-bin/spydus.exe/FULL/OPAC/BIBENQ/76417131/368951000,24

https://herts.spydus.co.uk/cgi-bin/spydus.exe/FULL/OPAC/BIBENQ/76417131/320405226,48

Hope these are useful  If not, get back to me

Hi George

I'm very sorry to hear about your wife.

Talking to children about someone dying is never easy. Trying to find the right words, the setting for the talk, how will it affect the child's emotions are all things that are difficult to address.

Perhaps your wife and granddaughter could start a memory box that will help her remember your wife, maybe your wife could slip in a letter to be read by your granddaughter when the day comes.

For some ideas Macmillans making a memory box might be of help.

Winston's Wish charity sell boxes

You were asking about books the following charities have suggested book titles

Winston's wish 

Child Bereavement Uk

When someone is not expected to live

Marie Curie  - books for Children about Death

When your parent has cancer This comes from the USA is intended for teens but if might be of interest

Amazon have a number of books on talking to children.

Your local library may have a section on the subject.

I hope the above is of interest, but George how are you coping with it all, do you have any support to help you look after your wife. As the days go on it is important that you look after yourself. I see that you have joined the Supporting someone with incurable cancer forum Group and this is a very safe place for you to come to and discuss your concerns, have a rant or rave, lett off steam (who doesn't need to that a some time!) or come in for a chat, the members are all very friendly and supportive towards each as are the members of our Carers only forum where you will be amongst people who are looking after their loved ones and need to chat or get advice or help.

If I can be of any further help please give me a shout, I'm not usually in this group but you can find me the carers group amongst other.

Ian

By clicking on any of the green text above will open up new pages for you.

Btw, the links r to Herts library website, but was just easiest way to send u the book details

Badger's parting gifts, in the Marie Curie list, is a lovely book too

Take care of yourself George x

this sounds good, thanks for your help buttercup

thanks Ian,

ive took note of all your links and put in a notepad to view anytime. My wife was diagnosed a year past May,so approx 16 months, i work from home nearly all the time. Shes still looking good apart from losing a lot of weight, she did put a good bit back on as we were away for 10 days in Majorca all inclusive and a break from treatment, she had a week in hospital a couple of weeks before we went due to treatment, just floored her, different things, would take too long to explain.

Treatment starts again this week and its been reduced by 25% to see if it helps with side affects, no one got side affects from her treatment but she seemed to get them. I see the odd changes regular like weird coughs and her voice changing slightly like someone has a sore throat but im guessing its her Lymph nodes, apart from lungs she has there and adenoids , was in her breast also, lots of the tumours shrunk greatly and the beatson doctor was shocked how well it worked but i see other changes.

I just dont know how to take every day apart from waken up and get on like nothings wrong but yes its hard for me, i will need help, i know that for sure,its just not hitting me hard enough yet, well most days im fine.

my priority is my wife and when i think about my granddaughter and how she stayed on Saturday night and we have her each week it breaks me down inside, my son and daughter feel it also but we get on with it for my wifes sake.

i also have an insurance policy that has terminal illness and wouldnt pay out untill they say my wife only has 12 months to live and i cant bring myself to ask the doctor but want to stop working then to spend it on her but i cant bring myself to say to the doctor or also mention it while my wife is there as it makes things more final.

anyway ill stop going on, as im on my late lunch break and the wife has just came in.

thanks for everything

george

thanks buttercup ive took note of all your useful info