I don't know how to carry on as normal

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Hello my husband has been diagnosed with stage 3-4 kidney cancer and we have been told its not curable but treatable , he's got his st scan on Wednesday after having 4 immunotherapy sessions. I'm trying to be positive for him when I just feel so depressed  and helpless , he's hemaglobin levels are low so he has to be careful not to do to much. We are just sitting not daring to make plans , life just seems crap  at the moment it's hard to just carry on as normal xx

  • Hi Amerly. I never expected this, but the cancer 'journey' thing seems to be all about waiting...and waiting...and waiting! The actual treatment is only one day every three weeks, then once every 4 weeks, if you go on to a maintenance dose. In theory, this should give you the rest of the time to get on with your normal life, but it just doesn't feel like that! I have found it has helped me to have some planned events to look forward to, even if when it comes to it you can't manage it...it gives you some structure and some hope...which is really important! We have booked a short holiday in June...whether I'm well enough to manage I can't predict, but we are going to try! I hope your husband's scan shows good results on Wednesday! best wishes

  • Hi thankyou, his scan shows that his large tumor on the right kidney has reduced and the ones in his lungs have reduced also but the one on his left is the same, to say we was relieved is an understatement, I keep trying to get him to plan things but he won't, his cancer nurse told him because his hemoglobin is low he can't do much incase his oxygen levels drop so he won't do anything and it's making my anxiety worse x