So CROSS!!!

Cancer frightens others ...with good reason...they often avoid or change the subject...we are used to dealing with it.

Debbie it is not just you.  Many of us patients come to recognise that partners/loved ones etc have an equally tough journey whilst we are in treatment.  Whilst I had some measure of control over what was happening to me, my wife just "hung on for the ride" trying to do her best for me and stressing because nothing seemed to be right.  Not her fault at all.  It is just the way things are.

All of us having been through these situations come to the realisation that some things are more important to be upset about than others.  Many things just need walking by whilst we do what is important to us.

I am sure your friend did not mean hurt and in her life maybe turnips are the most important thing right now.  Unless she has worn the T shirt she will never understand.  I hope he turnips survive to be eaten (the food of the devil!!) and you see the funny side of the conversation.  Remember to look after yourself so you are there 100% when your husband needs you. 

Hugs

Debbie N26 said:

  So if its you too - you are NOT alone! 

Oh so true! 
You are sharing your husband’s cancer. How dare the rest of the world go planting turnips, moaning about the weather, the children, the neighbours, the government when the love of your life has cancer!!!!!!!! How can the world not stop because yours has. 
At the beginning of my journey I asked myself what the answer to “Why me?” was. The answer, of course is “Why not me?” 
I used to think that friends dropped away because they were frightened of my cancer. I’m not too sure it’s as simple as that. They don’t know how to help so avoid helping by disappearing. It’s in the same vein that they prattle on about mundane things. I think we need to help them help us. 
Most of this probably makes little sense …. Sorry