Husband diagnosis only short time left

Yvie79

Thank you for taking the time to post here, I am so sorry to read that your husband is deteriorating so quickly, it is hard to find words that will be of any use to you at this time... But I am here, a stranger to you I know, but if you would like to chat /rant / cry, feel free to do so.

The terrible news you have received I feel will make it even harder to focus on anything positive. Maybe one thing that could be focused on, is what is there that your husband can keep down, food wise?  This is something that you can discuss together, do together. 

When my husband was diagnosed in May he was really ill.. he was rapidly losing weight and unable to eat, he had quite severe pain in his chest and back and we were advised that he had months, or months and months left..  The first thing we did after falling apart was focus on smoothies, made using high antioxidant fruits and vegetables, we added super green powder supplement and fed him as much of this as he could cope with, small doses to begin with.

My husband is a very positive person.. he has focused on crystal healing and meditation... I know that is not for everyone, but it seems to be working for him.

How about you? how are you coping, I know that this has all happened really quickly... have you managed to talk to anyone else?

Thinking of you

Lowe'

Sending you heaps of love. My dad (53) was diagnosed September and sadly lost his battle December, the docs said he had a very agressive form. 

Sadly my father in law (60) is now going through this. He is home now but sadly we arent expecting him to be with us for long. 

My dad couldnt talk as the tumor was pressing on his voicebox, but lucking my father in law can. From past experiance talk talk and talk more.  There is so much i wish i had spoken to my dad about in his final days but it wasnt to be, my FIL though,  is able to tell us exactly how he feels, what he wants etc.

Look after yourself, and take all the help and support you can get from family and friends. Be open and honest about how you are feeling.

My thoughts are with you and your husband. 

X

Hi, I can totally relate with your circumstances. My husband, aged 54 has had a similar diagnosis this week. It is inoperable but we are going to try chemo to help relieve his pain and symptoms. He has developed a swollen lymph node in his neck which has affected his speech and has meant he had to have a stent fitted last week as he could hardly swallow. 
7 weeks ago life was normal. We are stunned at how fast this has all happened. 
Love to you both 

xx

Thank you everyone who responded.

16 days ago my husband was diagnosed and today I am writing this reply from the hospice where we are receiving end of life care. He only has days left now. The consultant has told us it's one of the most aggressive cancer he has seen.

I can't quite believe this. It's like a nightmare I can't wake up from. My love, my world, my hero, I can't fathom an existence without him.

My heart is breaking for you I too feel like I’m in a living nightmare. The COVID-19 situation doesn’t help either with restrictions on who can visit. We have a very close family but we are in tier 3 so feeling very alone right now. 
have you been offered help with someone to speak to through the hospice. 
sending you huge hugs

xx

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I have no words, other than I wish things could be different for you. 

Love and strength to you all. xx

Yvie

At this time, I feel, you are so brave so come back to the forum, I hope you can feel the support that goes out to you and the heartfelt sadness of the responses. As says - there are no words that will reach you to wake you from the nightmare, just know that from somewhere your strength will come.

I am speechless at how quickly this disease reacted, I hope that the time you have together is pain free for your husband and that you have the support around you.

Sending Strength ((((Hugs)))

Lowe'

Yvie79

There are no words I could say to you after receiving such a shock.  I just feel so sorry for you. I just hope you will find the strength to get you through this terrible shock for both of you.

My husband is terminally ill as well but hopefully we have another little while together.

Thinking of you both x

I am so so sorry with your husband’s diagnosis, I can’t even imagine the heartache you are both going through right now.

Please have a look at the clinical trials on cancer research uk. This may seem so ultimate and my heart goes out to you but I’ve read so many turn around stories, especially on here in the last few years. Draw hope from that and remember we are all here for one another and never give up hope. 

 I wish you all the very best. 

chris x

So so sorry sending all our love to you both x