Hi. My daughter was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer in 2020. Following chemo, mastectomy, radiotherapy and more oral chemo she has now been diagnosed with secondary metastatic cancer. She has been really struggling with breathlessness and has had heart and lung drains over the past seven months. She lives in the Uk. My husband and I moved to the Isle of Man 14 years ago. I am struggling to know how to support her, her husband and two children through this. We are close and I go over to see her as often as I can and whenever there is an emergency. I feel really guilty that I am not there to give her the cuddles, mental support and family care that they all need. I am also aware that I very rarely cry about the situation and feel as hard as nails. I am concerned about the future and don’t know how to help her best. Does anyone else feel this confused, helpless and guilty?
Hi BigH and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read that your daughter has recently been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer and it's natural that you want to find out how you can best support her.
I can see that you've found and joined the family and friends group, which would be a great place to connect with others who have a family member living with cancer, and to see how people there have found ways of helping.
When you have a minute, it would be great if you could pop something about your daughter's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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