I'm 32 and recently started chemotherapy to treat breast cancer (large tumour nearly triple neg). Yesterday I've found out it has likely spread to my ovaries. After chemo, the plan at the moment is surgery on my breast and to remove ovaries.
This whole thing is a nightmare. At Christmas me and my partner could never have believed that we'd be talking about practicalities of how he copes financially each month if I'm not here or the very prospect of not growing old together.
I have to say, this aside, life has been amazing to me. I've had such a loving upbringing, found my true love and best friend, been on lots of travels and have seized opportunities. I just want to make sure I don't waste time, that I make the most of every precious moment. The most important, spending time and making memories with my partner, family and friends.
At the same time, this news is s**t! Really s**t! It is more upsetting as when I first went to the hospital they thought it was a cyst, so it went untreated for months. Treating it earlier may have made all the difference. It's just unexpected in women my age with no known family history of cancer. How do I get over this and carry on fighting?
I'm really keen to know how others have managed to control anxiety, sadness and anger and have managed to continue fighting and living positively.
Hi Wildlifeconservationist a very warm welcome to the group, but so sorry you find yourself here. I do not have the same cancer as you, but I have noticed that your post has gone unanswered so hope you don't mind me posting here.
I am so sorry that early diagnoses was missed. You are right, it is s**t and so unfair that this has happened. So how do we cope with our cancer diagnoses. When I was first diagnosed at the age of 39, my husband up and left. So I was left to deal with it all on my own. Then when it came back 5 years later, I met the love of my life. Bad timing aye. We did our courting on the wards of the hospital, and in the radiotherapy unit. We were initially told I had 6 months to live, So we tried to make the most of what we had, and here we are 6 years later, still doing just that.
So how do you cope? well you just do. You are lucky to have the love of your family and friends. It became obvious to me when I was diagnosed, who and what was important to me, and I just spend my time with them and doing the things I love.
You may want to look at joining the breast cancer group as well for support from others.
Wishing you all the best
Hi Greenery, my story is different, as although I do have a secondary cancer, it is not breast cancer. I have endometrial stroma sarcoma which started in my womb, and is now in my lungs. I am the champ for the lung group, but you may see me around the breast groups from time to time, as my treatment is the same as breast cancer. I am on anastrozole and zoledex as my cancer is oestrogen dependant.
