Hi, I am here for my Mum. She is 59 and had breast cancer 5 years ago. Cancer came back last year, I found out two days before I was about to give birth to my son.
My mum is the most important person in my life and the news has broken down all the family. Yesterday we found out that the treatment was not working so mum has to change to paclitaxel - which she has to take intravenously. She is crying a lot and is very sad. I m so sad as well together with my twin sister and dad. Ever sic=nce mum was diagnosed for a second time, I have shut down and don't talk to people. I have a twin sister who I am very close to and dad. I am so angry at times and feel so powerless, We are both scientists and the fact that we can't do much about this, is killing us. This has affected me so much, my relationship with my husband is not the same any longer, and he always sees me sad. I just want to cry but the worst thing is when you are so sad and you can't even cry. I feel like I need some help myself as well. I can't imagine my life without my mum. i am a mother of two kids (3-year-old and a 1-year-old). I would appreciate if you could please tell me about your stories, how's the treatment going, who supports you, what's your lifestyle like. Is there anybody I can see to help me make the best of the situation?
Many many thanks. God bless you all.
Hi and a very warm welcome to the Online Community but sorry that you needed to find us. I am also very sorry to hear about your Mum's secondary breast cancer diagnosis. This has been such a shock and is a very difficult time to navigate.
Although I had a different type of cancer a cancer diagnosis brings many questions, lots of confusion and stress but talking with other people who are on the same type of journey will help you navigate this rollercoaster ride.
The Community is organised into dedicated support groups and it’s good to see you’ve found our supportive Secondary breast cancer forum. I can see you’ve introduced yourself so I’m sure someone will be along soon to answer your questions and offer support.
When you have a minute, it would be helpful if you could pop something about your Mum's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. (It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself.) To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can update it at any time..
Talking with others caring for family and friends will help a lot so do check-out our Family and friends, so you can connect with others walking the same journey supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear. Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available . You can ask a nurse about medications in our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
Sending you welcoming hugs, B xx 
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