Hello. I am 56 and was diagnosed with BC in October which came as a shock as it was my first mammogram that picked it up. I had a lumpectomy and 2 lymph nodes removed 2 weeks ago and should get the results on 4th December.
I am absolutely terrified for the future and struggling to cope with the psychological effect. One minute I feel positive and the next I am looking at funeral plans.
I would really appreciate some tips on coping with these yo yo feelings. Even though I have a supportive family I still feel very alone on this journey.
Sorry to be so negative and gloomy.
Sorry to hear your news! That's exactly how I'm feeling, too which is why I've just joined, so thank you for being honest! I'm 43 and was diagnosed on the 14th November with triple positive breast cancer plus non-invasive DCIS in the other side of the same breast. One minute I feel calm and in control, the next I'm in a total spin, but I'm also dealing with full menopause after giving up HRT when I had my first biopsy, so I'm in hormonal chaos argh! it's a lot... but I just wanted you to know you weren't alone x
I am so sorry you are also going through this. Thank you for responding it means a lot to me. I wish you all the best x
Thank you so much! If you ever need to chat, I'm here and will respond when I can. I wish you all the best, too x
Personally, I find it comforting talking to those going through similar things.
Do you have any hobbies that might be able to distract you at all?
Feel free to add me as a friend and speak on there, if you prefer, no problem either way of course... I have no idea how it all works
I like knitting which I try to do when I can. We have a year old beagle and he keeps me very busy. I will be glad to get back to work as that will keep my mind active. What about you, do you have hobbies? X
So sorry to hear this. I was just diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer this week and also keep swinging between those two extremes. I don't really have any useful tips on coping at this point I'm afraid, although I think joining this forum is a big help in feeling like you're not alone.
All the best to you x
Sending you love! Here if you ever need a chat x
I am so sorry about your diagnosis. I am glad you joined this forum it shows we are not alone. Have you been given a treatment plan? X
Thank you so much.
Yes, I have surgery for a lumpectomy and lymph node biopsy provisionally booked for 18th December - currently stage 1 and hoping to stay that way!
Then, dependent on results, chemo for around five months starting in Spring and then a week of radiotherapy 6 weeks after that. It sounds like a lot when it's all laid out together, but hoping taking it one step at a time will make it less daunting.
Good luck for your results on 4th December. How is your recovery from the surgery going?
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