Hello. I am 56 and was diagnosed with BC in October which came as a shock as it was my first mammogram that picked it up. I had a lumpectomy and 2 lymph nodes removed 2 weeks ago and should get the results on 4th December.
I am absolutely terrified for the future and struggling to cope with the psychological effect. One minute I feel positive and the next I am looking at funeral plans.
I would really appreciate some tips on coping with these yo yo feelings. Even though I have a supportive family I still feel very alone on this journey.
Sorry to be so negative and gloomy.
Hi there,
I am a little further along in my journey than you. I had my inital lumpectomy and lymph node procedure in Sept after being diagnosed with Grade 1 IDC. The worst part of all of this is the waiting for results, your mind will go everywhere and it’s hard to explain to the people around you.
The moment I sat in the consultants office to get the results of my surgery I was terrified. I had clear lymph nodes but needed another op to get clear margins. I should have felt elated at the clear nodes but I just felt numb.
I had my second op on Wednesday and it’s ok pan wise but I just feel so tired. My mind is still all over the place. It really is a tough slog mentally.
The best advice I can give is to try to be kind to yourself, rest when you can and try to ge out for a walk each day.
Have you any local centres you can go to? MacMillan or Maggies?
Hope all goes ok with the results x
Thank you for your reply. I am sorry you are going through this too. It is a mental slog. I am sending you lots of hugs and my best wishes for your recovery. Take care x
Whatever cancer throws your way, we’re right there with you.
We’re here to provide physical, financial and emotional support.
© Macmillan Cancer Support 2026 © Macmillan Cancer Support, registered charity in England and Wales (261017), Scotland (SC039907) and the Isle of Man (604). Also operating in Northern Ireland. A company limited by guarantee, registered in England and Wales company number 2400969. Isle of Man company number 4694F. Registered office: 3rd Floor, Bronze Building, The Forge, 105 Sumner Street, London, SE1 9HZ. VAT no: 668265007