Because i have had a lumpectomy and shave and there was still cancer present, I will need a 3rd surgery after my chemotherapy to see if I am cancer free. The thing that people keep saying to me now is " Why don't you just have it taken off now, and have done with it. It's not as if you need it anymore."

I feel like saying yes as you don't need to be rude, but there you are smashing it.

This made me smile, I feel for you, things don’t appear to change! I’ve tried to post a link the thread I started in this in 2021, there were some brilliant things reported on it, but it won’t let me for some reason, it is called:

Starting to avoid people because of the silly things they say!!

All the best with your treatment and not killing anyone too xx

Oh that little word ‘just’.  I have metastatic cancer spread to my liver. “can’t you just have a liver transplant?” Was my favourite. 

Good grief. ‘Just’ makes the mind boggle x

OMG how I hate…,. You got this ….. you are strong..,,,you will beat this……one friend told me to get a grip after my surgery and just assumed my treatment was over, NO I have radiotherapy and 14 injections, once ever three weeks. I may look fine but I am terrified I am going to die.

Oh my God im so glad its not just me my best friend keeps saying these one liners like 'you got this' and it's making me cringe so much. I'm not trying to finish a race it's not a a girl power situation. It's cancer and there is so much you can't control or influence.

I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer and have my diep surgery in 5 days. 

It does make you cringe, you're right. And when they say you're so brave - we haven't got a choice. 

All the best for your surgery. Let us know how it goes. xx

Yes! I feel awful having these thoughts as people just don't know what to say- it's like an automated response. I also get 'you're so brave' which annoys the hell out of me the most.....like I have a choice? I didn't wake up one morning and think "oh you know what, today I'm gonna have cancer because I'm ever so brave!!"  

You rant as much as you like xx

Hi

What type of surgery are you having?

Best wishes

I had a new one the other day. Someone thought the only side effect of chemotherapy was hair loss and said. I know someone who's hair has grown back. What's the difference with you?