The annoying things people do - a rant!

Total with you on this one ! Those words “ you’ve got this” how   the hell do they think it’s helpful ! Or “ you’re strong “ “you’ll be ok” …. … I havnt “got this “ I’m not “strong “ and I’m not “ok”!!!!!!!

I know it’s hard for people to say the right things , and we just grin and bear it. 

so have a good rant on here then no one is offended …..

Xxxxxx

Hi Supermeg90

Thanks so much for this post! Over a year in, I'm slightly less irritated by these things.

BUT! The one I continue to dislike the most is "You're so brave."

I fail to see how continuing to live in the face of a cancer diagnosis and treatment,  is 'brave'! 

As I decided and as I told them: I'm not brave... I just choose life.

Well said everyone! There’s another thread like this somewhere from a while ago. Always good to have a rant here, makes these stupid comments easier to tolerate! Xx

I'm even more annoyed now... my auntie came to visit (I live at home with my dad) and I was just chilling in the garden as I'm 4 days post re-excision there's not much else I can do and she literally comes up to me, asks how I am and says 'show me what it looks like' I said no and that all to see is a big plaster and yet she still insists on trying to see!!!

People really can be so odd, can’t they? 

Even my daughter (who has been through hell and high water with a lymphoma that refused to go) has told me how well I’m coping! But I take it from her as she really does know!

hugs xxx

Nowt so strange as folk eh?! Why on earth would it suddenly be ok to ask one's niece to whip their boobs out... 

Let's take a collective deep breath. Forgive them, they know not what they do!

Hi Moomy I came on here to ask you how you are?  I cancelled my surgery.  Just want to have a life.  I’m back to gardening.  Watching seedlings come up is a joy.   I was so sorry to learn the beast came back!  Hugs xxx

I thought it was just me thinking I am being ungrateful or something like that. I've tried to convince myself I'm strong and I've got this, because that is what I'm constantly hearing, and being told. I was beginning to think I have to feel that way because it's all I hear, and that it would be wrong of me to be weak and NOT want this.

Glad it's not just me feeling like this. 

Hi Jgau , I’m doing ok thank you, on Abemaciclib and Exemestane but coping! 

You cancelled surgery? How are you doing? Have they got you onto any meds? 

I’m holidaying in my Moho at present, have only planted peas so far as I decided getting away was a priority this year….

Hugs xxx

Hi again,  so good to know you are travelling about especially as the weather is amazing right now.  My planned surgery for 30th March was to exchange encapsulated implant and improve symmetry.  My surgeon planted the seed that things could be improved.  However the last time round I had to have aspiration weekly, for 10 weeks to drain fluid.  It was 12 weeks recovery, after which we had the best family holiday of a lifetime.  Being back in the same situation I didn’t want to go through it again!  I’m on Tamoxifen I sometimes get horrendous cramp.  I guess I could change my mind but right now enough is enough. Has everything settled for you after the mastectomy?  I don’t think any option is comfortable.  I still get rib pain and now have lymphedema which appeared after my new hip surgery.  It’s a great comfort to have been back here and catch up!   Big hugs xxx