AWAKE.........

WhatHappened  and you other ladies looking after aging parents.  I have a few friends in or have been in same position and I'm full of admiration for you as I know it's often a thankless task as they seem to take out their frustration on the persons doing the most for them.. I lost my parents in my 20s and my in laws in my 40s so never had thisIi t "problem".  Is it bad I say problem.  I just see friends doing their utmost out of love for them and suffering so much stress in organising care, entertainment etc.  to make their twilight years comfortable.  There should be more support for carers. .

I too loved the red dresses.  I need to go buy a little outfit for my new G nephew but I'm still full of lurgy so I won't buy yet in case I put my germs on it!!!  

 Grogg I love your reflection's on your childhood.

I think what happened has made you the person you are today. The generosity of the £100 voucher just before payday...I had tears here. You are a top Auntie.

My Dad died when I was 5 so I was brought by by a grieving Mum. We were financially secure as the house had been given to them by my Grandpa. But I was often alone in this big creepy Victorian  house.

I had some fabulous Auntie's who used to arrive and stay a week or two and take me back to their homes often for the 6 weeks school holidays. 

I agree about people caring for elderly relatives. Its an act of love often unappreciated.

I am still loving the new job. My working week starts on Tuesday and finishes on Thursday and i have every Wednesday off!!! I should pick up extra shifts really.

Hope everyone has the best day possible. Sending love from the sofa with dear Ted.

I heartily agree about those taking care of older generations, as working parents it’s incredibly common to be in that split caring role. And pretty tough it can be, too. My respect to all who manage it!

 My mother was fiercely independent (so much so she never told me or my brother what she had, what she wanted or ever needed) but typically would phone to demand me visit now and then. One such occasion she staged a fall, I assessed how poor her mobility was and got GP out. She was admitted to hospital (she’d ignored all instruction to keep her ulcerated leg elevated) and they healed the ulcer, were about to discharge and she died suddenly from a ruptured aortic aneurysm. She would have hated being dependent on either of us so it was a good way for her to go. 

Mother in law had home care plus one of us regularly doing her shopping and odd jobs, she too would eventually have needed more care but had an intestinal obstruction, admitted to hospital and her heart gave out. 

Neither parent would have wanted to live with us and made that clear, too, our lives were busy with a couple of musical children needing practice and daily lessons/groups/music centre activities. Plus we didn’t have the space available. 

hugs to all xxx

Night night Fruit Loops, sleep well and stay safe, plenty of sleepy fairy dust for all who wish

hugs xxx

Goodnight moomy Hope you sleep well.

Hi Fruit Loops, well I am officially back on…..

the not so joyous rollercoaster of appointments and awaiting results etc! Had a call today to let me know I have an appointment with ENT on Thursday next week! Part of me is pleased its come through so quickly and part of me would happily of waited for a few weeks! 
I do know it’s better to get it over with and hopefully find there is ‘NOTHING’ there for them to see/biopsy and that the scan just picked up a random false positive! My Oncologist didn’t seem overly concerned but then you question if that’s the case why put it through as an urgent 2 week referral?? 

I feel completely knocked sideways by all of this! I knew that this was always a possibility, but after having had a CT just a few months ago, I thought all was going to be fine and this added area, even if it turns out to be nothing, is just an added stress I could do without!! 

At least I know I have support from some of the most wonderful caring and loving Fruit Loops, to keep me going! Was going to ask have any of you had the camera up your nose? I’m guessing it can’t be anywhere near as bad as having the camera down the throat?! But if anyone can reassure me of that, I’d much appreciate it! 

Off to bed now. Still have a sore throat and my ear is sore! Hoping it’s just lack of sleep and my body saying have a rest and relax! Which believe me is easier said than done! But Bella and LP have helped a lot! As well as some lovely supportive Fruit Loops! 

Goodnight Everyone, Sleep Well xxxx

Whathappened do please be careful of that tree fake snow as it is harmful to animals xx

Hello all. I was Ninsi- now I've had a nightmare, my account has had a fault in it and many emails and still no joy with fixing so have had to set up a new account.

 Snowys Mum  the baby is gorgeous

 Grogg  aging parents can be tough - i was saying today at 46 i have the worry both sides with teenagwrs plus parents getting older. But my parents are sensible- moved to a bungalo at 69 to prepare. They're carrying me and our pain and aging in front of my eyes which is heartbreaking

Im off to possibly have a mastectomy tomorrow. Depending a bed is available- they warned possibly an issue this afternoon so heartbreak possibly ahead and more wait. Its just so bad this waiting!

Nighty night all x

So it is almost 3am and I am wide awake but totally exhausted.

Dear LondonLass I have had the camera up the nose and down into the throat twice. I got myself so worked up beforehand about the thought of it but actually it was really easy and didn't phase me at all at the time. The NHS has a rule that lumps in the throat are always treated as urgent. I saw my gp who emailed the hospital requesting an appointment while I was in the room with him and as I walked out of the doctors I received a call from the hospital with an appointment for the next day. So I guess I am saying , try not to worry too much about the significance of a speedy appointment and also about the camera. It is on such a fine thread it really doesn't make you feel like you are choking, which was what I had worried about.

Sending big hugs xx

Hello Mag123 .... Thank you for this, in a good way mom hasn't got any pets - although loves going outside to feed the birds (I have wondered if a cat or small rescue dog would bring her comfort and mom bring comfort to them....  mom doesn't seem keen.  You mentioning the fake snow being harmful - I now feel like I recall it being dangerous to humans - I'll have to have a google and see what it is.  We do have a (think) 14 day return window.

I will attach a photograph when I can upload from my phone.

Right Fruit Loops - I'm off for a cup of tea, feed the kitty cat and a few hours sleep xxx

Sending love and hugs to you all xxx

Ninsim  good luck today.

Snowys Mum hlad you enjoying life & new job 

LondonLass hubby had camera up nose to try to find out cause of lump in throat when swallowing.  Was a quick, painless procedure.  They couldn't find anything major so it's another thing attributed to spinal cord syndrome!   I'm glad they not keeping you hanging around..  I can imagine this has knocked your confidence.  We are always here to listen x
WhatHappened i was fancying a snowy tree but a few people said they shed the white stuff!  

Im back off to bed - it's 6.30am this cold making me feel crap.  Went to bed at 3pm yesterday, woke 5am and I'm still tired but I had to get up as coughing awful lying down.