Hi All. This sort of thread happens in other groups and works quite well so I thought I would give it a go here, especially now some people are shielding and isolating again. Just general chat away from the usual medical things where people can just talk.
So, I went out for a quick pint earlier to Wethers for the first time since the local restrictions came in to force this week. Greeted at the door and had to give details. Asked if I wanted a drinking table or an eating one. Drinking, of course. The eating section, you had to have table service only. I was taken to a single table. The drinking tables, you order at the bar and then drinks are brought to your table. Last orders 9.30 and all out by 10. All very organised and for someone who likes their own company it suited me fine. I was hoping to hear a nostalgic bell and the shout of "Last orders Ladies and Gentleman please", but it was all a very sedate leaving. Best wishes
Hi,How are you all ? We have snow at the moment.Mum has been transferred from hospital into a nursing home nearly 30 miles away.It is sad that she won’t be coming back home but it’s better that she gets nursing care.I hope she will settle in.There is no visiting but they have a special pod for it once restrictions are lifted.I’ve dismantled mum’s bed as it was in the lounge and looking at was difficult as I miss mum.Plodding on with paperwork and research.Best wishes to anyone having tests,procedures,results and love to you all.Jane xx
Hi Jane. Your Mum is now in a good place where she should be well cared for, but sorry to hear no visiting. It must be really hard for you. Hope you are well in yourself. Take care and sending you best wishes.
Thanks rily,It is so hard not to be able to see mum.All I know is that she is now very frail and needs extra help and is distressed at night.The home that was nearer had an outbreak of Covid so they were closed to all admissions.It feels odd that a social worker can see mum and I can’t but we have to stay hopeful that the situation will improve.I struggled so much to look after mum this year following the cystectomy.At least mum was able to come home for a while inbetween hospital admissions.I’m ok except for nausea if I do too much bending.I miss my partner John but he had his Covid jab yesterday so he should be able to stop shielding before too long.The snow is beginning to thaw.There was a car accident opposite earlier,thankfully no casualties and the damaged car has been removed.I live on a hill and some people drive like maniacs.Love Jane x
My thoughts are with you 30 miles from Mum and not even allowed there. Would you be allowed to post in a scarf you have worn lots? The smell of you on it might comfort Mum more than anything. Our younger daughter always used to have one of mine to cuddle if we went out in the evening leaving a babysitter from the local circle, even though she knew them all well. And our grandson at 4 still occasionally clutches a t-shirt of mum or dad's - he has both.
I'm afraid they are saying even once vaccinated everyone still needs to take great care. At best it gives you 90% protection and they just don't know if it stops you passing it on.
Glad no one was hurt in the accident, Derbyshire police sent out a pic of a car upside down on ice near Castleton as a warning..
Love Denby
Hi Denby,The scarf is a lovely idea but sadly mum lost her sense of taste and smell after her brain haemorrhage.John won’t be going out until he is fully vaccinated.He is not feeling well with the side effects and has spent the day in bed.I hope he will be ok.How are you & Mr D ? Is his recovery going well ? Love Jane xx
So sad about Mum's taste and smell, what a loss at the age when for most people food looms large for enjoyment. Today despite temp of minus two we managed a nice, slow, turn round the estate including a bit of the central green, for a good half an hour. Very morale raising. I was super pleased, I managed to spot my first snowdrops under a front window. No snow here atm. Mr D was lucky; he didn't have any soreness etc from the jab, and we can't sort out one cause of daytime sleepiness from another. Hope John feels better soon.
Might still be worth sending Mum something familiar of yours, jumper or something?? I don't know if the sight and feel of it would still be a help?? My late mum-in-law acquired a teddy from somewhere late in life as Alzheimers started to bite. I don't think she ever cuddled it but she had it sat on the unused opposite twin bed to hers.
Love Denby
Well done on the walking Denby, it's only when my mobility got restricted I started to value it as the treasure it is, and it's one of those things we have to use or we lose it. I didn't get dogs out myself yesterday as it was so icy underfoot. My first snow drops are up too, poking through the snow. x
Hi Denby,Mum should have a little toy penguin and owl with her.They seem to bring her some comfort.Good that you were able to get out and about.Our snowdrops are appearing through the snow.It feels so much colder today but the sky is blue and the sun is out.Love Jane x
Awe so difficult for you ar the moment just wanted to send love and hugs Would it be possible for you to get 2 small soft toys both the same one for you and one for Mum I know its not the same but a friend knits pairs of teddies for hospice patients one for the patient and one for a family member so they have a bond
take care lots of love
Wilbert xx
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