Bad news

Coojee. So very sorry to hear about your resent diagnosis. I think the thoughts that you are thinking are ones that all cancer patients think at one time or another and all of us I’m sure have tossed around the “ what if’s” in terms of how we deal with the end result, but I liked your final comment... “ is it admitting defeat.”.Everyone on this site will come to their end at some point and the overwhelming thought that goes through my mind is how do I want to go out .... fighting with the chance of winning  ( no matter how small) or not.There is a great book “Radical Remission “ and I clung to it when I had my darkest thoughts. I say.. as long as you are feeling well  “Keep on Trucking “ Just sayin . Orillia.

Thanks, I just ordered the book from Amazon.

One should never give up hope of extra time/remission/whatever - but death will come to all of us, it is not defeat to admit that. My opinion is that it is a sign of strength to face that and 'put one's affairs in order' to make things easier for whoever has to deal with them, even if you don't anticipate death happening any time soon. There have been some very good TV & radio programmes, both entitled 'We need to talk about death'. 

Perhaps it is too soon for you to do that - if you prefer the notion of a fight to the last, you must do what feels right for you. Best wishes.

I came across this - don't know if it will be of any help.

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../finding-out-you-are-dying

Hi Coojee. I have started several times trying send you a message. Everytime I end up deleting everything. I have been worried about a similar diagnosis. For now all seems OK, but I remember how I was feeling and I fear I don't have the right words. The community of people in this forum is bound by very strong feelings and experience and your bad news I think has made us all feel so much for you... I am so sad and I wish I could help in any way... I wish you will find peace. I remember during the darkest moments I could and wanted only my wife and my daughter close to me. They managed to help a lot.

Many hugs to you.

Marco

Thank you Marco. These messages mean so much to me &  help me not to feel so alone. My wife means everything,  I must fight this thing just for her. I fear of losing 2 lives. I'm hoping the oncologist replies tomorrow so I can have some idea of which treatment I will have. Meanwhile my hip pain has been a little better & I have been able to get some sleep. Please write again everyone.

Hi Coojee, writing again, have been on a 3 day round trip for sister in law's 87th Birthday yesterday. Feel rather zombie like after 11miles Friday to AirBnB near daughter's, 90+5+5+90 yesterday ie down there, afternoon outing, and back to the AirBnB. Today 120 home, via Newark town centre in a crawl as somebody spilt oil on the A1. But I enjoy the leafy bit through Sherwood Forest. Is your part of Scotland forested or bare moors or what?

Night night, other half's already packed it in. I am very encouraged as he drove the first hour-ish down and same back. Hoping Mrs C will tackle this at last.

More hugs and do if it suits please tell Mrs C I am sending hugs for her. 

Denby

that was supposed to be 111 miles Friday, said I was like a zombie...

We are in the middle of the Northern Highlands. We have both forests & moorland too, plus the mountains. Also on the East Coast there are miles of sandy beaches. Wifey loves wild swimming, so whenever we get a good day, I take her to a Loch or the beach. Her favourite place to swim is a waterfall pool. We have a favourite place at Assynt. A Loch nestled between the mountains. I'm a photographer & may post a pic of it. Wifey can swim, I can fly my drone.

Glad the hip is letting you rest. Indeed. Let's hope the oncologist comes back with a treatment plan. I remember reading of people with incurable cancer who were on "palliative care" and lived for years, with a chemio treatment every so often. We are all rooting for you!

Good night.