Last birthday im just not coping

I had my last birthday with my mum last week. It was hard as we only received the diagnosis and the prognosis 2 days before, and the initial 'it's cancer' diagnosis 2 days before that. I was trying to process the news, make the most of the time, and put on a brave face for my family and children all at the same time.

In the end, after plenty of crying throughout the day at the extreme sadness of it all, we had a nice family get together with a takeaway around my mum's house. I didn't want to be anywhere else.

My advice would be to not dwell on it being your 'last' if at all possible, and just make it as happy as you can be - do what you want, don't do what you don't want. Make the most of the time together and when you look back, you will do so with fond memories.

Hi Mav thanks for listening  .Ive read your profile  and we are in very similar. Position and I know how hard this is I've been on this journey  for over a year now and seeing my partner  deteriorating  is heart breaking  keep in touch and stay strong love  faithfulxx

HI faithful

oh I just want to reach out and give you a huge hug. We've been through our share of "lasts" so I can totally empathise with how you are feeling.

My husband (now 53) was diagnosed with a stage 4 brain tumour in Sept 2020 and given a prognosis of 12-15 months. He's still with us although he is now in the final stages of this cruel disease. We've been through some of our "lasts" three times. I wrote a blog for MacMillan on that very subject

Coping with the last celebrations with your loved one - Macmillan Online Community

There are no hard and fast ways to cope but please try to enjoy your birthday when it comes. I'm sure everyone in this community will join me in wishing you a magical day when  it comes.

love n hugs

Wee Me xx

Thankyou  Wee me means a lot sorry your going through the same  stay in touch hugs bk too you xxx