Medication for depression

Hi , I'm sorry to hear that chemo is not working on your sister's cancer. I can't say I've heard of liquid anti-depressants but that doesn't mean there aren't any. Perhaps it's something she could discuss while she's in hospital. Each person's view of dying is so different and words of wisdom would probably need to be around whatever those beliefs are. Perhaps you could chat to her about her thoughts? As long as we have photos and memories, my feelings are that our loved ones stay alive in our hearts, but that comes from a while after the event; nothing stops me blubbing at the time.The one thing I was most grateful for with my dad, was having the time to cry together. Healing tears.  Sorry that's all I can come up with. Chatting to one of our experts on the helpline 0808 808 0000 might be more helpful. 

Thinking of you,

Hi Inshock,

I’m really sorry to hear about what you’re going through. My dad had skin cancer for nearing two years, until it spread all over and eventually led to a brain tumour. My parents used to not tell me about much of the situation because I’m so young and it’s not nice to know. Eventually, my dad deteriorated very fast at home. He could have had a few weeks to a few months to live. In the two weeks that he deteriorated, I had to speak and look at him knowing that he was going to die. I’m his last week, I saw him from being able to walk to in a hospital bed in our living room with his face slightly collapsed. On the last time I saw him ( I do sport so I went training and was far from aware this was my last time seeing him) my mum said to give him a kiss on the forehead and I told him I loved him as I guess she knew and I could see him frustrated that he couldn’t get anything out, that he was in this position and that he was inevitably going to die. He died the very next morning, one week after my birthday. 

All I can say is that no matter how hard you may find it to look at your sister as it’s so upsetting, the best thing you can do is spend as much time left with her. When my dad was so bad and beginning to forget things, things that were built back in his brain as years of memories, I found it really upsetting to be with him. When I saw him in pain, I found it so upsetting that I’d have to take myself away as if I’d cry it would be upsetting. Just spend as much time as you can with her because unfortunately you can’t predict when they go. Please  enjoy everything she does with her and see her being happy as those last memories are the ones I keep seeing. I’m so sorry about your situation.