My Dads cancer is terminal

Hi Tired

Welcome to the Online Community.

I am really sorry to hear that your Dad has had a diagnosis of an incurable cancer and I understand what a difficult time this will be for you all. Sometimes with cancer things can feel like they happen so fast and that it does sometimes feel overwhelming. It is natural to feel like you are being pulled in different directions when you are a Mum who works and also wants to be there for you Mum and Dad. 

I will pop a link here with some information that may help.

Supporting someone with cancer | Macmillan Cancer Support

I would also suggest that it may be an idea to give the Macmillan Support Line a call and just talk things through with one of the nurses. They are there from 8am-8pm daily and will also be able to have a look in your local area to see if there is any support close to home. 

Many people find Maggies centres helpful and I wonder whether there may be one in your area.

Maggie's | Everyone's home of cancer care

If there is anything else you need please do get in touch. 

Jane

Thank you Jane xx

Hi

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. That sounds so so hard for you.

I have found out that my Mum has terminal cancer. I am so close to my Mum, so i am heartbroken.  

Its an incredibly hard road to be on. People have told me to look after myself and weirdly that is one of the hardest things to do.

We found out in March and I can honestly say as hard as it is to look after yourself,  it is a necessity.  It sounds hard for you having two autistic children to look after too.

Only thing I can say is accept any help that people offer. People will be desperate to help. Even if its to take your children to the park, just so you can do something for yourself, even if its a good cry. 

Its heartbreaking. Sending love to you xx

Im so sorry to hear about your mum. Are you managing to spend quality time with her ? 

I feel like I'm in a bad dream. How do you handle all your emotions. Im trying to keep it all together.

Hi

Yes i am able to spend quality time with her thankfully. But i work full time,  so its hard.

That is exactly how I feel. That i am in a living nightmare and I will wake up. I have had dreams in the past like this and now it is my reality. The fifth time she has had cancer but this time not operable. 

I have found it so hard to manage my emotions and keep work going. I have been having counselling through work but that is about to end. So the hospice are going to give me counselling. 

Do you have friends or family that can support you? Its such a hard and scary place, you need people around you, who can support you. Macmillan are amazing too, I have called them a few times for advice or support.

We have to somehow look after ourselves in this. Its a necessity really. X 

My husband is amazing, I feel like all I do is cry on him. 

5 times !! Your mum is a warrior! She has fought hard. Its good to hear that work has provided support.  If you ever need a friendly ear when you cup is getting too full, please feel free to message.  

Oh that's so good you have a lovely husband to support you. My husband has been amazing too, I have cried with him so many times. Here for you too, if you need support. Sadly we both understand what its like. 

My Mum is a warrior and so brave.

Its such a painful road and the worst shock you could ever wish to imagine.  X