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FormerMember
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Hello

I have to attend a funeral a week on Wednesday of a dear friends husband who died suddenly.  My problem is that she wants me to do a reading at the service. I showed her the reading I eventually want at my own and she has decided that she wants it now and that I am to read it.  I have tried to navigate around it by saying perhaps a close family member should read it instead of me. I know she is grief stricken and is not thinking clearly but I will find it extremely hard to read.   It took me a long time to find it and I know I don't have any ow worship over it but I feel uncomfortable. I cant obviously refuse. Any advice how to get my head round this?

Ellie

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to tvman

    Tvman

    Thankyou.  My husband will be there to support me.  I'm resolved now to it

    Ellie x 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Your a better woman than me.  You really are a wonderful friend.

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    To Ellie. Here is my Bengal. Her name is Ellie. I call her hellbells when she’s naughty 

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi Ellie

    You are so kind and brave. All your friends here will be thinking of you on the day and sending positive vibes that you will make it. I believe in Karma and hope that something lovely happens for you as a result of this. Please let us know how you get on.

    With love and great big gentle hugs,

    Pat xx

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi there, she is beautiful and looks very wise! Thanks for sending us the picture. I hope she is a good comfort to you.

    Love Pat x

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hell JackD

    She is gorgeous. I have a dog now but always before that had cats.

    Ellie x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hello Pat

    Thankyou. I dont think I'm particularly brave but the decision is made and I will do my best for her. That's all I can do now.

    Ellie x

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi

    I have never met a brave person who thought they were brave. You are a true friend and a brave one. 

    Much love xxx

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi Daloni

    Thank you x

    Ellie

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    Hi Ellie,

    Good luck with the reading.  If it was me I would try to get my head into a less emotional state before the reading.  I use visual relaxation techniques (you basically imagine yourself somewhere where you have been nice and relaxed previously and try to remember and recreate the feelings) and used to use them before anything stressful such as interviews.  I know others use mindfulness or meditation to get to the same place.  I am sure that you will cope beautifully.

    Gragon xx 

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