I guess many of us have regrets as our lives draw to an end - as well as all the good memories. For me I regret my lack of honesty with my wife about my sexuality. I have a spanking fetish involving men only. It lives in my head (I’m not into pain!) but I do like the power exchange aspects. I have discussed this with my wife who I love very much, but have not been fully transparent with her. This is partly to save my own embarrassment and preserve the little self esteem I have, but mostly to protect her from pain.
I don’t particularly want advice but I’d be interested to hear from anyone who can empathise, or hear about others’ regrets so that I can offer support. I’m 62, white, English and have a terminal brain cancer diagnosis.
Hi Jamie
My name is Dylan and I work in the Online Community team.
Thank you for posting in this forum and sharing so honestly about your experiences. I just wanted to pop a quick reply here as I noticed that you hadn't had a reply from other members of the forum yet.
You may benefit from joining and posting in the Living with incurable cancer forum. You may find other members of the Community there that are processing regrets.
Best wishes,
Dylan
Macmillan's Online Community Team
It is a pleasure, Jamie
Yes, unfortunately, we don't have many members making use of this forum. Most of the conversations take place within forums linked to specific diagnoses, prognoses and cancer experiences.
Best wishes,
Dylan
Macmillan's Online Community Team
Good evening.
I think you have done a good thing. To tell your wife how you feel. I think even though you only covered the surface it is sometime maybe to much info can be to much and it hard to find the balance at times. So well done for that. I am gay and married to my husband of 17 years. Hope you are keeping well and wanted to say hi. Try not to have regrets, we travel our journeys as that is where we are suppose to be at that time :)
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Happy to support and chat, so please dont feel alone in all this alongside the diagnosis. Message anytime you need :)
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That sounds great. I am feeling low today and fed up.
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I am much better today. Just having you chat with is nice too and helps. Hope you are keeping well and the last couple of days have been good for you x
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