Regrets

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I guess many of us have regrets as our lives draw to an end - as well as all the good memories. For me I regret my lack of honesty with my wife about my sexuality. I have a spanking fetish involving men only. It lives in my head (I’m not into pain!) but I do like the power exchange aspects. I have discussed this with my wife who I love very much, but have not been fully transparent with her. This is partly to save my own embarrassment and preserve the little self esteem I have, but mostly to protect her from pain. 

I don’t particularly want advice but I’d be interested to hear from anyone who can empathise, or hear about others’ regrets so that I can offer support. I’m 62, white, English and have a terminal brain cancer diagnosis. 

  • Let me know how you get on with the oncologist in Feb. Fingers crossed Fingers crossed 

  • Thanks. They have. I’m coping well having had 2 years’ practice since my terminal diagnosis!

  • I will let you know. Happy to direct message if you need to aswell. I did worry you was not well ladt couple of days, but happy to know you are still going strong x

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  • Tbh I only visit the forum every now and again as I haven’t had much traffic other than you. I tell a lie - not ANY traffic!

  • Haha well you are welcome to message anytime. I only check in here to see your okay. I mean people look but say nothing haha 

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  • Good morning. Hope you are keeping well? 

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  • All good thanks. You? Are you managing to sleep? It makes such a difference!

  • You seen my other posts then about sleeping haha. I did managed to get a full night sleep and woke at 10am today. I am pleased you are keeping well. You managed to get up to much last few days? 

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  • Just the usual - walking the dog on my mobility scooter, going for coffee, snoozing, Netflix. We are watching House at the moment but I’m getting bored of it cos each one is the same! We get out every day no matter what the weather is doing to walk the dog. We got him as my Chemotherapy Therapy Dog (!() in 2021 the first time I had chemo. I had a relatively easy ride until the last cycle but I took him for a walk every day no matter how shit I felt. He was and is a godsend!

  • I am watching Criminal minds and find most it becomes the same. Just different characters. Pleased your getting out and about and have some wheels to get some fresh air. We have 2 cats who keep me company now and then. Cats though it is all on their terms, but since my diagnosis they have been close by. I would love a doggie but life and time does not allow it for us 

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