Hello I cannot make sense of this sentence ' my sister has cancer', not yet . Two weeks ago my younger sister didn't know she had this but now she does, we all do. It is stage 4 ovarian cancer. I am supposed to be the strongest older sibling, always caring for everyone else but I am really struggling to know what to say, what to think even. She is my best and closest friend. Our Dad, who we cared for until he went into a care home, is still here 81 with mixed dementia. I cannot tell him, for one he would not comprehend and two it would be so unbearably cruel for him as he would not remember. We, I would be adding to his pain and suffering even though the natural thing is to tell your mum and/or Dad. Anticipatory grief - I don't know how much strength I have but I guess I am about to find out. Those years of caring were very hard, harder on my sister than me as I later discovered and it seems so cruel that she now has cancer. I just wanted to put it into words, in a place where people can understand as it is hard to express to those closest to you without upsetting them too.
