Hi,
First time poster here. my 80 year old Dad just received the news that the tumour removed from his bladder was cancerous. He will be receiving chemotherapy injections starting soon. He also has a several cysts on his kidney's one of which is 4cm & cancerous. Thankfully it's operable and they are scheduling surgery.
I'm so worried about the effects on him as an 80 year old. I'm almost 400 miles away, but thankfully he has my brother and sister near by. He and his wife (my step mum) seem to be quite in denial about it at the moment and not really grasping how things will change. She has mobility issues so it's difficult to explain to them that they may end up needing further help.
I don't think I have a question as such, I guess just needed an outlet to write all that down.
Hi 81Mike
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
I can relate to some of what you say from years ago with my parents, first it was my brother who was nearest and did quite a bit of support to them but then my parents moved close to my sisters and so they did most of the hard work. One thing though that I hang on too was when they both had to be elsewhere and I spent the day with mum and dad.
It can be really interesting how writing things down on here and sharing can somehow make us feel a bit better, just knowing that there are others out there in similar situations can make us feel a little bit better.
<<hugs>>
Steve
