Mum is Terminal

Rea J 29 days ago

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Hi everyone,

I've been putting off posting for a long time and I'm not sure why as I know we all can truly relate and empathise with each other. My incredible Mum was diagnosed with Stage 3 lung cancer in Dec 2023 but in February of this year we found out the treatment didn't work and she now has 9 brain tumours, cancer in both lungs and cancer in her bones (femur). She is declining so rapidly and it's like I'm in a nightmare I can't wake up from. I have moved back in to support her but my Stepdad is just angry and trying to keep distracted at all times so I feel very alone.

My Mum is my rock. My best friend and to watch her speech slow, her not be able to move without significant help, her cry everyday and her eyes/vision and skin change colour is something I would never wish on anyone. I feel sick and helpless everyday. I am so awfully sorry to anyone going through this. It is horrific and I love my Mum more than anyone in this world and wish I could take it away from her.

Thank you for giving me a safe space to share this. Sending everyone so much love and strength.

xxx

Laura 42 28 days ago

Sending love and strength your way too as I was very moved by your words. ️ xxx

Macs95 21 days ago

I can relate so much to your post, watching my mum decline so quickly has been horrible. She has now started hallucinating and talking nonsense to the point that it feels like I'm talking to someone with dementia. She is also in so much pain from the cancer being in her bones that she can barely move and is bed bound. This has all happened so suddenly too, we only found out about the cancer about 4 weeks ago. I'm so scared of losing her and finding it so difficult seeing her like this. And to top it off I've just had a baby, her first grandchild and I'm so sad for her that she's missing out on the chance to be the grandma that she's waited so long to be.

Sending you lots of hugs in this difficult time xx

Dizzyrunner13 1 day ago

I understand those feelings too. My mum was only diagnosed a few weeks ago but was already stage 4, needing emergency bowel surgery and widespread mets. She has declined so quickly and has gone from being very active to unable to walk across the room without getting incredibly breathless. She is so weak and frail. It breaks my heart every time I see her. Dad is still in denial and thinks she should ‘try to do more’. It all his frustration as he can’t do anything. I feel so helpless.

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