My mum has been told that her cancer is not curable and therefore this year's mother day could potentially be her last. I want to do something special for her but I am running out of ideas. Food is out of the question as she is on a special diet due to a high output stoma. She has had surgery last week so cannot do anything related to a spa. I have looked at some things like perfume making but it's £200 each and I unfortunately just don't have the budget for that.
I would be grateful for any ideas that anyone has
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If you don't get any replies here, it might be an idea to also join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group to see what ideas people have there.
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Hi Vezxx. I know where you're coming from, spent a lot of time thinking of suitable treats for my daughter as she has endured nearly two years of cancer treatments ... chemo, radio and three surgeries.
Would your mum like a posh manicure or pedicure? Maybe the theatre - out of town ones are not as eye-wateringly expensive as the West End. An exhibition or a visit to stately home? Or even a 'posh' cinema, in the reclining seats, to see a film she would enjoy?
We've done all kinds of things from the hot houses at Kew Gardens (it's the orchid exhibition around now which is gorgeous) to a visit to a donkey sanctuary and the Strictly Live Tour. I'm sure you'll come up with something and your mum will enjoy the time with you, whatever you choose. xxx
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