Dad dieing

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My dad has terminal liver cancer I'm out of control with my addiction I can't think of life without him but I need to take care of my mom I'm an alcoholic and an addict I'm worse than ever now

  • Any1 with any advise or support I'm scared of loosing him 

  • Hello  

    I’m Steph and I’m part of the Online Community Team here at Macmillan. May I wish you another warm welcome to the Community, although I’m sorry that circumstances bring you here.

    I was so sorry to read that your dad has terminal liver cancer and about how this is affecting how you’re feeling. I hope you will find it helpful to be able to share in the Community and get support from people who understand what it’s like when your loved one is diagnosed.

    Whilst you’re waiting for other members to reply, we wanted to make sure you have the right support in place for yourself whilst you go through this difficult time.

    We hear that you are feeling particularly concerned about your addiction at the moment. 

    Your GP can help offer you some support with addiction and the way that you’re feeling at the moment.

    You can also search on the FRANK website if you would prefer to refer yourself directly to addiction services near you.

    MIND also has a list of organisations who offer support with addiction.

    We also have a Macmillan Support Line if you want to talk things through with someone who is there to listen.  Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00email or live webchat.

    Please do let us know if you have any questions or need further support with anything at all. You can contact the team by email on community@macmillan.org.uk

    I hope the Community and Macmillan show you that you don’t need to go through anything alone.

    Steph
    Online Community Officer
  • Hi  ,

    I'm really sorry to read your dad have terminal liver cancer, my dad has terminal cancer too (although from appendix/colon). It's so hard to think of life without them, I often find my head consumed about thoughts of the day I have to say goodbye or navigating life without him. What you feel is anticipatory grief, grieving before they have gone. You do have to let those feelings happen, when I'm low I let myself be sad and have a cry and tell myself that it is normal to feel that way. The best thing I did for my thoughts was rearrange them to think that I've got this opportunity to spend the most amount of time with my dad and make some memories with him before he goes. He was recently in hospital and whilst initially I dreaded having to see him in a hospital, we laughed and joked around that I looked forward to visiting him. Another thing that helped me was reaching out to the NHS talking therapy services, I got 12 weeks of talking therapy where I could work through my feelings and restructure my thought patterns. 

    Please do reach out to a GP or somewhere such as AA for help, whilst I am not an addict I do have experience with a family member being one and the best think you can do for yourself is seek help. Its so important in this time to look after yourself as well, it is a tough time but just remember you aren't alone. Please feel free to reach out to me/message if you need someone to chat to. I know how lonely it can be. 

    You aren't alone in this, 

    Emily