Parents both had a diagnosis within a week of each orher

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My mum discovered she had early stage breast cancer in February (pick up on a scan she had sor something totally unrelated). She went on to have a lumpectomy and 5days of radiotherapy. All clear or so we thought. She had a scan prior to the radiotherapy and something showed on her lung. She had various tests. Whilst waiting for the final biopsy my dad had an x ray and they said it was lung cancer, they following week mum had a diagnosis of the same thing. They have said hers is treatable and curable with surgery. We’re waiting on more tests for dad to determine what treatment, if any will be suitable for him. It’s all been such a shock. I am trying to stay up beat and positive for them both but sometimes it’s hard. I was due to go away with my husband and teenage children next week but I feel I can’t go incase there are appointments they need to attend.

  • Hi  

    Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

    It must be really difficult with both parents going through this, even more so with still waiting for tests on your dad, many find that time between diagnosis and getting on to a treatment plan extra difficult, please let us know how they get on and fingers crossed your dad's cancer is treatable too.

    <<hugs>>

    Steve

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  • Hello. I am in a similar situation with my mum and mother in law recieving a diagnosis within a couple of weeks of each other. I have also cancelled a holiday to be there for appointments. It's really hard to stay positive for everyone else while dealing with your own worries. It's a completely rubbish situation we are in, you're not on your own and struggling to stay upbeat is so understandable. You don't have to be strong all of the time, try to lean on others occasionally or you'll crumble. Sending lots of love 

  • So sorry to hear your news. It’s just rubbish. I was talked into joining my family on holiday but almost instantly regretted it, I booked a flight home the next day. Now I feel guilty about that. I’m lucky in that I work in a school so have been off for the summer break, I’m worried about having to go back to work too, just worry with everything. Hope you’ve got some support around you xx

  • I also work in a school and have had the summer to get my head around things and go to hospital appointments. I am really worried about going back to work in September. I feel like I've been living in a bubble and I'm not sure how I'm going to cope with juggling everything.

  • Things took a dive here over the weekend, dad is now in palliative care. My mum, sister and myself were with dad all day and night in Sunday, he was very sleepy and his breathing was laboured we thought the inevitable was happening and all felt a peace. Monday lunch time he was completely different. The emotions are unbelievable. Mum goes in for surgery next Tuesday and dad has agreed to go for respite care whilst she’s in hospital/recovering. 
    I’ll have to see what my options are at work, I really don’t want to have to give it up and they would hate it if I did but I need/want to be here to support them. 
    Sometimes it takes everything I’ve got to actually move.