Shock diagnoses - Lung and Liver cancer

Hi Ell2024 

So sorry to read your story and totally not surprised you talk about being in shock. I am really very surprised he has any kind of prognosis given what you have written, My wife had Leiomyosarcoma but was very clear she never wanted a prognosis; I really struggled with that but 10 years down the line I know there is often little to gain from them as they are at best a guess based on older data.

If is very easy given a cancer diagnosis to slip in to anticipatory grief and in some ways that stopped me making the most of what we have as I was already trying to work out how to live without her.

We do have a guide on here talking to children and teenagers that you might find helpful.

<<hugs>>

Steve

I’m so sorry I’ve just found out my mum has lung cancer after breaking her hip. Are they giving your dad any treatment? I’m still waiting to hear what my mum prognosis is. They told you quite quick! 

So sorry to hear about your wife, and thank you for commenting. 

I just want to sit with him and cry but I know that won't help him at the moment  I feel like my world has ended.. x

Aw I'm so sorry your mum has this too.

He finds out tomorrow what the plan is but he's already said it doesn't change the outcome so he doubts he will take the treatment. He's getting worse daily, he can hardly say a sentence without being breathless and coughing.

How is your mum? Xx

Have they said 12 months with treatment or 12 months without. 

she’s okay but suddenly the cough and breathlessness has got worse. We were told 3 weeks ago she has cancer and have heard nothing since

i feel like my world is falling apart too. I don’t think I can do life without her 

He went to the appointment on his own and to be honest, I think he's blanked half of the info out! 

He had a phonecall today and its actually in his lungs and liver, not kidney. He's got a liver test Friday and then a lung examination on Tuesday. 

He said that it was about a year either way..but I guess we'll find out more after the results. 

Have they not said whats next for your Mum?

I feel the same as you. I feel like my life has been turned upside down and i can't see a happy future without my Dad in it..  I feel so selfish saying that as I have husband, a 3 year old girl and 4 month old boy.

Sending you strength, and I'm always here for a chat if you wish. It helps to know someone else is going through it too xx 

Because she broke her hip they are testing the bone and apparently it takes weeks

 I’m not close to my dad so it’s always been me and mum. I have a 3 and 6 year old who think the world of her

i genuinely don’t think I will ever be happy again. I was expecting this in 10 years time not now

always here to chat. I feel so alone at the moment 

Aw that's so much for you to deal with on your own. I hope the wait isn't too much longer for her. 

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? I feel the same as you. I don't expect this now...feels too young. 

We have a family business so all work together and it all feels so strange already. I feel so alone too and feel like there's no point anymore  

I’m 35. We do everything together! 

Aw I'm 30. We're way too young to deal with this aren't we. It's so unfair..

Im so sorry for you. I wish I could offer comforting words but unfortunately we're in the same boat