Stage 4 cancer - that incurable conversation

Having that Stage 4 diagnosis is the hardest news to take. I know from experience.

I was diagnosed with Stage 4 SLL Leukemia in November 2017 & I truly do believe that remaining positive throughout was the thing that helped immensely.

Hearing the word Cancer & recieving a Stage 4 diagnosis feels like the end of the world, but keeping that positivity is a huge help & in my opinion can make a huge difference.

I remained fully focused on my family & did not think about the diagnosis at any time. I accepted what I had been told & immediately looked forward to tomorrow & each following day.

Having a focus & maintaining that focus is key. Do not let your friend dwell on the diagnosis. Easier said than done, but if he has a reason to fight & something or someone to focus on then I really do believe that's half the battle won.

Support your friend & in the meantime remind them that they have so much more to give & just to keep thinking about tomorrow & the next day. Arrange something exciting for them to focus on, something they've always wanted to see or do.

I am a firm believer in not giving a moment's thought to the cancer. I laughed & smiled every day & throughout my chemotherapy. I focused on my wife & children & maintained the belief that I could win. I did just that, I fought & won.

I'm now entering into my 2nd battle with Cancer. I was diagnosed 30 days ago with a rare aggressive Leukemia Richter's Syndrome. Once again I have smiled & laughed every day & have just been selected to take part in a clinical trial. I will continue to smile, laugh & use humour to deflect from the negativity of Cancer & all it brings.

I hope & pray that your friend finds the strength & a purpose to look forward everyday & not look back. Positivity is key & without it fighting that stage 4 cancer will be a real fight. Give your friend the support they need & they'll open up when ready. With good people around them they will find the strength & positive frame of mind to win.

 Tell your friend it's not over yet. They need to find that one thing to keep looking to tomorrow, with it there's always going to be a chance.

Every fight is a battle but there is always a glimmer of hope & light at the end of the tunnel.

My gosh. What a wonderful reply. Thank you so much. Wishing you all the very, very best. 

You're welcome.

I hope all goes well & your friend finds that strength & positivity to fight this awful thing & make's a full recovery.