Hello
2 years ago my mum was diagnosed with eusophagus cancer she had an op which removed part of her eusophagus and then had chemo.
Around 3 months later she found out she had ovarian cancer so december 2020 she had a hysterectomy and 2 small masses where removed from the bottom of her stomach.
Since the hysterectomy she has not had normal bowel movements she is either constipated or has diarrhoea this has started to get alot worse in the last month and she is also being sick almost every day and is loosing alot of weight.
I have read that hysterectomies can damage the bowel so wonder if this could be the issue, problem is she won't do anything about it and a couple of weeks ago tried to assure me it was just a bug.
Any advice would be extremely grateful I'm so worried about her.
Hi
Sorry you have this worry about your mum. I know with my wife when she is feeling really unwell when she actually wants to go to hospital - but fortunately that has not happened in a little while.
If she has been sick for more than a few days almost all the over the counter meds with note "talk to your GP". One nudge technique that can be helpful is to say - well either we talk to the GP now or when you get worse we will call the ambulance and you will be in hospital - that then puts the control in her hands - two reasonable choices.
It might also help you to look through Looking after someone with cancer especially the bits about remembering to look after yourself - I know I have been terrible at that in the past.
My GP is wonderful now, he has promised me that he will always make time to see me if I flag as urgent.
<<hugs>>
Steve
H it sounds like you are rather human to me. What many people find with all sorts of long term illness is that looking after the carer is rather important too.
Janice says from some of the training she had "you cannot pour from an empty cup"
<<hugs>>
Steve
