Daughters partner

Hi and a very warm welcome to the Online Community. I noticed your post and popped over from another group. It is difficult when you feel outside the loop.It's lovely that your daughter doesn't want to worry you, it's a bit like waving a red rag though isn't it?! Palliative care involves keeping the cancer at bay for as long as possible and keeping the person comfortable and it can be successful for many years. The radiotherapy and chemo may be used to reduce the size of any tumours as well as to enhance comfort. i don't know if your daughter is a member of the community, but one of the areas here is a section of blogs and I wonder whether your daughter might consider writing one? It doesn't appeal to everyone, but if she felt able to write one it would save you having to keep asking questions. Emotions so often run high on the cancer marathon, so please be assured that your feelings are perfectly normal and I hope things settle a little soon.

Love and hugs,

Hello and thank you so much for answering. My daughter is 19 and I really don't want her to feel like she is alone in all of this she seems far too young to be going through it I just want to be there for her and because of this lock down I can't even see her. I know I am being selfish and it seems to be about me but that's really not the case. She says she doesn't want to tell me too much because I lost my mum to brain cancer and she doesn't want me to have to go through it all again. It's so damn hard and unfair and cruel. I did not realise that chemotherapy could be used for so long? 

Hi , it's perfectly normal for a mum to want to protect her daughter and 19 is very young. Yes, cancer is cruel and unfair. It's surprising how long chemotherapy can be used I think we all remember hearing it was a short term thing years ago, but time moves on and there are so many different treatments, thankfully. I hope you can see soon that you're not being selfish, you're a loving mum.

Love and hugs,