Having a bad day

Don't worry Elenium

You were there when it counted.

And you will always be there in each others' hearts

Xxx

Maisiemae I feel it with you !! The constant river of meaningless words and offers of unwanted and belated help ? Why ? Why now when she is laid at rest ? Why was there no help when the diagnosis was given? When there was something they could do to help ? No nothing then .., they all stuck their heads in the sand and hoped it would go away . Now their words just irritate and anger me I wish the funeral was sooner so then at least they would all leave me, us alone because it would all be over and done with for them. 

Maisiemae I am so so sorry your mum had horrors in her last days, I prayed it would be peaceful for her and you. You have been a voice of comfort, kindness and reason on this site and we all have a great amount of love and respect for you , take your time and know we will be here if you post in the future x 

Hi,

We should have a lend system, Bob only used his for 3 weeks although it was a rental. Wouldn't know how to fit it though, bit of an idealist aren't I?. I did have a go, my mil thinks she can come and stay, so not happening. It's being taken out soonest.

Hope your mum recovers and you manage to get some rest. You just think what next don't you?

X

Maisiemae & yantibee, 

I feel the same, & I'm nearly 7 weeks in. Keep having duvet days interspersed with anger days. At Alan, for leaving everything such a mess. At his wimpy son, who doesn't even have the balls to say sorry for lumping all the estate stuff on me. At myself, for not seeing sooner how ill he was. 

I have this black hole where my caring side used to be. 

I went to the gp today as I now have a sinus infection! I want to chop off the left side of my face!! Then at 11 I'm meeting Alans landlady at the flat. I've tried to warn her, but I know it'll be a shock for her!! 

I can collect Alans ashes next week. As you know, I didn't go to his cremation, so I'm wondering how I'll be. 

Jenny & Elenium,  I promise I haven't forgotten you, & your poorly Mums. 

I've been reading through this thread from when we started chatting at the end of October. Was it really only 2 & a half months ago?? It feels like I've come to know you so well, & really care what happens, even if I don't post as often at the mo.

Big Hugs & Love to you all

Suexx

Elenium - ive come here today as im worried about you. Not that im not thinking of others. I sense you have hit that awful brick wall of realisation at how poorly mum is and despite heroic efforts we cant change it. Im quite sure you are still fighting for mums care to be better and monitoring the home she is in. It shouldnt be that you have to but accept you will be pushing them all the way. Can you supplement mums care with a rota with you and good sister? Im thinking of you and have some alarm bells going off. I think im saying plse dont disappear. You started this thread which has been a mental lifeline and i thank you for enabling that, i latched to it like velcrose! Now i cant fight anymore i can support. You are very dear to me x

Hi Sue!

Yes didn't it start with Elenium letting off steam?

You must tell us what the landlady says...

Mum has fat feet and emaciated thighs so very weird.

Texted my aunt days ago that mum had infection and not eating. No reply...yawn.

Mum now eating a bit but aunt doesn't know that.

Was up at 2am last night as dad not sleeping and being noisy. 

Sis has to take over so I can go to docs tomorrow as have bad chest and a weird mole that needs checking.

Maisieme Yantibee Elenium Sue....where (approx)  do we all live?

Jx

Ps I'm usually in Battersea south London.  Although I'm at parents in Streatham 90% of the time. Jx

Hi Jenny,

The landlady was shocked, but told me she knows I'm trying my best to sort it all out. She's texted me a phone number she got from the letting agent of someone we could get a quote for clearance from.

Our thread started with Elenium wanting to hide while watching Greys Anatomy boxsets & eating curly wurlys. Then you getting bitten by the neighbours cat!! Oh for those times. Much less emotional. 

I live in Coventry.  Been here 9 years at the end of Jan. Used to live in rural Essex. 

Elenium, please know we're thinking of & worrying about you.

Hugs Sue xx

Maisiemae. .our posts crossed.

Elenium if you're reading.  Much love.

Jx

Sue...would be interested to know how house clearance works. May have to clear a property too. Mum inherited from her aunt whom she nursed with cancer ..

Cat bites me monthly....it's a male cat or I'd say it's PMT. .

JX