Having a bad day

Morning yantibee and everyone. Happy Christmas too.

We had a lovel family day yesterday, many more happy memories stored. I am lucky in that bob is an only child so I don't have siblings to cope with, only his 97 year old mum who can't/won't  understand why he is always asleep and can't visit to wind her clocks and make her elevenses.

Similar night to you too except I don't need the doctor. Bob is losing his power of speech now, couldn't make me hear him yesterday when I was in the bathroom, really frightened him as you can imagine, so upsetting. We have bought a plug in door bell which he keeps pressing and I shout is that a test or faster? 2 rings for test, always 2 rings so far! Sense of mischief still there.

Best day also to everyone, Bob is having a pork chop, not that he's eating anything but it's there if he wants it.

X

Hello elenium.

, we spent Christmas and New Year in a& e for the same reason.

Excruciating pain, I know, for him.

Hope soon resolved x

I so agree with you. Just when you think you have a small bit of near normal, something else rears its head and then you think so what else can there be, what next?

Love Lesley x

Christmas Day sitting here on my own, took dog out for her walk earlier Hubby in bed only hope he makes it to table for lunch.  Really feel like tearing down the decorations I was determined to have Christmas as it will probably be our last together, but yet another lousy day, all family enjoying theirs but too far away 3 hours in car. I just want to scream and cry got no strength fighting a full meltdown. But must get on otherwise he feels responsible and it isn't his fault.   Wipe away tears stick on happy face, might even get around rtf o opening the presents later.  Hope everyone is having the best day possible. Xx

A virtual hug for you Brenda.

It's v hard.

Elenium how's husband and Mum?

Jx

Hug to all x

Hi all,

Got home at 6am from A&E.  They put a catheter in and drained his bladder.  Not a pleasant experience for him.  He told me that he didn't want me to stay as it wouldn't be pleasant for me.  I've seen much worse with mum.  I did feel for him, especially when they told him that it has to stay in for 5 days.  He's had his prostate checked previously and they said he was borderline so consultant said he needs to have ultrasound and treatment as that's probably what's caused this.

Got to the home at midday.  We've all had roast turkey dinner and mum ate quite a lot.  Mum's not so good today.  She's quite vague and doesn't remember what we said 5 minutes ago.  She seems a lot weaker today too and is sleeping a lot.  She looks worse too. She did say that she likes the home and the staff are lovely so that's a relief.

Feeling better about mum being here.

I've been thinking of you all today, those that post and those that don't.  My heart breaks for those of you that are having a very hard time today.  It is easier for me now having mum in the home and I am full of admiration for those of you that are doing it all for your loved ones. I wish that I could have kept mum at home but it just wasn't possible.

I hope that you all have a peaceful and relatively stress free Christmas day.

Sending everyone love and hugs.  XXX

Im similar situation, the thing is they dont think they are doing anything wrong, appear to be blind to the level of effort theyve made, not enough!!! Im worried that nobody will speak to me at mums funeral, they will all be crying but i will cry from the i did everything and more gutteral cry. Mum is now losing her mind - drugs and i think the disease is taking the final **** bit of her. I want to wail and scream but cant as not how we are meant to be. She looks dead even though she isnt, she saw a mirror today, was shocked that her eyes look so scared. I want my mummy back, you evil evil evil disease

It is evil. Why has it indiscriminately picked our loved ones.

Maisiemae if she can see you still it may comfort her. Or hear you? I sometimes want to run and hide in the dark as it's unbearable to witness...but then that's unfair on mum... when I'm no longer needed...that evil day...I may just hide away a while...

My Mum seems to be going deaf.  Today she ate.

Please please give everyone a peaceful night.

Hugs.

Jx