Having a bad day

Hope all goes smoothly from now on elenium. ..probably more than just over night though I suspect. 

I got NOTHING done. Had call Mum coming out went to hospital at 12 she got out at 5pm..  her legs so swollen she can't walk is very breathless. Am at theirs tonight back to mine to tidy clear fridge put bin out tomorrow as left in a rush. 

If mum can't get upstairs I'll have to sleep on floor.

Nightmare I'm afraid. 

Her chest is whistling.

Dad dialysed hope he's OK. 

Sorry feeling down. Glad she's out but it's too early.

She signed the DNAR but has told nobody.

Jx

Hello Jenny,

All the things you are saying, and what you are going through with your Mum's illness, remind me so much of my Mum. Everything seemed to change on a daily basis (she had a primary brain tumour). I took a sabbatical from work and nuresd her at home, with my Dad. She had days when she was more lucid and aware, eating etc, then next day sleeping and unaware of what was going on. I think this is a bit of a cautionary tale for your Aunt. My Aunt and her husband put off, put off coming, till it was too late. I have found it hard to forgive them for this.

Take care, Anneteresa

Hello yantibee,

So glad to hear you had your lovely Christmas day with your wife. What you are dealing with sounds so much like what we dealt with, with my Mum. The incontinence, confusion, loss of mobility, all very distressing. You sound so passionate and caring in the way you help your wife. And I do understand what you are saying about friends and relatives!

Take care, Anneteresa

What a lot - i found the DNR very clear of how much more mum cld cope with. Its a nightmare, Im broken - without wishing to sound like a victim, im feeling alienated by the 'fair day' members of my blood family. Im officially looking for new siblings. Ideally sisters. Our relationship is over and I mourn something we never had! If anyone fancies a pretty reasonable, caring, loyal, often selfless, sometimes funny new sister, im going spare and free to any takers!

Hello Elenium,

So sorry to hear about your Mum, as if she doesn't have enough to deal with. I hope, it did not take too much longer for you to be sorted at hospital. I hope you are able to take time for yourself, while you know she is in a safe place.

Take care, Anneteresa

Is a DNR the same as a DNAR? 

feel sick with tiredness. 

Maisiemae I'll be your sister although am now mostly deranged....jx

Yes believe so. Do not attempt and do not. Im happy with kind, interested and derranged. Better than not interested x we cld be sick together. Im ridiculously tired, scared, lonely and sad. Its a lonely time as ive isolated myself as cant spreadmyself any thinner even thougb ive got fat! X rest if you can but my brain cant switch off. They cant control mums pain. I think we have to do the driver v soon but she is resisting which i also understand. Im not with her and siblings too busy to go arghhhh. X

Elenium - do let us know how your mum is. Get that infection under control and mend her wrist. Hope you get some rest too x

Mum just shouted out in sleep. ..dad said he asked what she was dreaming ...she said she was fighting a dog.

Dad now awake ..met him outside my room...

"Dad where you going?"

"To make Yorkshire puddings"

"Yorkshire puddings?"

"I mean Horlicks"

This house is crazy. ...

Sister sleeps through all.

Jx

This evening as I made my mum comfortable for bed, I said to her " awwh mum you look so comfy" she sat bolt upright and said "who's coming for me". She then said to my dad "whats the time Trev" he answered BBC1

GOOD GRIEF ITS CATCHING.... LOL