Having a bad day

Dear AT,

Your poor dad. It's a horrible, horrible thing to know that there is nothing that can be done.  And to be so far away and not be able to look after him must be awful for you.  But you know that he is being looked after where he is.  I don't really know what else to say except that we are here for you.  Sending you a big hug.

X

I came on here this morning feeling quite sorry for myself, on my way back to work.  First day back since mum's funeral.  Then I read AT's post and realised that although I no longer have mum with me at least she is not in pain and has escaped the clutches of that horrible disease.  I am grateful for that.  I miss her terribly and I expect I always will but that's my problem and she's with dad now.  She waited nearly 47 years for that.

Sending hugs to everyone, but especially those of you that read, but do not necessarily post, who are still going through your own nightmares.  We are here for you.

X

So true Elenium.

Xxx

I try so hard to be irresponsible but I just cant do it, perhaps I used all that up in my youth! x

AT - this must be like semi torture not being able to go and see dad when you want to. 11 years seems like a longtime ago but Im quite sure it doesnt feel like it. I cant imagine how you must feel especially with your own condition (Ive become more aware of Fibromyalgia) as think it seems to be more in the fore now although confess ignorance on the impact to you.  Seems like you have a great communications with your dad so Im sure he is finding great support with knowing you are there for him.  Of course where he is has marvellous facilities and he has, like so many others, earnt the right to be looked after like a King. I trust he feels that way.  I do hope in responding you feel a little less alone, you have been such a constant support on here for so many x

Dear AT,

It must be so hard for you especially as you are not 100% yourself.

Has your dad told anyone about his discomfort or sleeplessness, maybe he is being stoic and uncomplaining because he feels he should be.

With your dad's permission can you phone his care team to discuss. I know he is well looked after but maybe the team are not aware as I mentioned.

Take care of yourself too.

Xxx

Feeling very sad tonight.  Had to sort out about putting mum's ashes with dad, getting an urn for the ashes, deciding the inscription on the urn and talking to the stonemason to get additional inscription put on dad's headstone.  It was pretty upsetting.  Then my nephew came tonight and took mum's fish and fish tank. I'm glad they've gone to a good home and I know mum would be pleased but that made me feel worse too.  

I just miss her so much.

Oh Elenium I feel your pain so much as I do all of you on here it's devastating and it won't stop . Tomorrow (Tuesday) would have been our wedding anniversary 19 years married 27 years together as one . Truly heartbroken again tonight x 

It's just crap!

It is crap.

A month yesterday since Mum died a month today since Elenium's Mum.

Ffs mother's day. Birthdays. ..mine is day before mums. .anniversaries etc..

I guess it must get less awful. ..eventually?

Jx