Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out. Â I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down. Â Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her. Â My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later. Â I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better. Â My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help. Â She had a major strop. Â I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard. Â I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up. Â Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it. Â But I feel even worse now. Â I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else. Â I just keep crying and feel so very very sad.Â
I think I will get some counselling too soon, but this place and you lovely people are doing a good job at counselling each other and me as it is
Hard day yesterday at MIL funeral very emotional for my boys and me, too soon after Jill dying and she was all I could see and think about during the service
At the cemetery after the service my eldest asked if we could go to see our daughters grave,she would have been 26 this may and it's the first time my sons have ever asked about going to the grave, we did and they found some comfort there, we cried and hugged and in a way it was lovely. They said that now Mum and Lauren were together as they always should have beenÂ
I am missing my Jill today, really badly .....feel sad xÂ
Hope Friday is better for allÂ
Yantibee. Its always so comforting to see your name on here. Weve all spoken today (cyberly) so, as you say this is virtual group therapy and its self facilitated! Please take good care of yourself and yr lovely boys. I do hope Lauren and Jill find each other. I like to think mum has company. I dont feel her presence. She feelsvery gone. I hope this feeling changes.
Hello Maisiemae,
Can understand your reluctance to scatter the ashes. I would be the same, but my Dad wanted to scatter Mum's ashes, so it was done. As for my grandaughter, we still have her ashes, even tho' she was stillborn 5 years ago. My daughter and I find them a comfort. We are all different, dealing with this in our own way.
take care Anneteresa
I am following your posts, and I so admire all of you, who are dealing with this. Sometimes my heart breaks for what you are going through. As for speaking at the service, hats off to you, I could not have done it when my Mum died. If you can't that is no reflection on you. As a support group there is no doubt you have been amazing, and I have found your support just so. When you do meet up I think you will just find so much support. I say this because I have Fibromyalgia, and have a support group that keep me alive. We meet every week for coffee,and quite frankly I would not want to be here if it was not for them. Just saying how important support is.
Take care all Anneteresa
Anneteresa fibromyalgia is horrible glad you have support.
2 am and we're up.
All quiet but not asleep.Â
Classic FM on.
Jxxx
After spending most of the night awake and crying I am now on my way to my good sister's for the weekend. Â I am looking forward to it but it is bittersweet as me and mum would often go up for weekends. Â Also my sister moved house in November and mum never got a chance to see it. Â Sister and husband lived in rented for 2 years as they couldn't find anything they wanted to buy and mum was so pleased that they had finally found somewhere.
I'm coming up to your neck of the woods Sue, well nearly. Â My sister lives in Leics. Â I am currently on the train to Rugby. I'm glad I've come on the train as driving would have been really hard. Â Always drove when mum was with me.
X
Elenium
Hello JennyÂ
Hope you and your dad get some rest soon.
X
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